There are letters to the editor. Kids write letters to Santa. We sometimes write letters to our elected officials. We anticipate letters of acceptance. We would like to forget those dreaded Dear John letters.

Much of this correspondence has been translated to texts, tweets, and emails — so much so, when we see a real written note or letter in our mailbox, we are thrilled.

Unless your name is John.

What if we were to pull out a piece of paper, and pen a letter to our younger selves?

Surely, we have gained wisdom, perspective, and experience enough to counsel our younger selves at a time when a comforting word of encouragement would have done us a world of good.

What would our advice look like?

You are enough.

Be easier on yourself.

Look up and breathe.

Relax.

You are strong enough, smart enough, and kind enough to make a difference.

This world needs you.

You are discovering wonderful things about yourself, and that will never stop.

For as long as you live, you will build upon your strengths and abilities.

When things get rough, remember who you are.

Do good.

Search for the easiest, small task you can do to move closer to your goals, and then keep doing that every single day.

Always fill your mind with gratitude for the blessings in your life, both great and small.

Of course, our younger selves cannot read that note just written, full of encouragement and hope. Would we have benefitted from such a note?

I think so.

Therefore, what could we write about to our present selves? We still have cares and concerns; projects can overwhelm; relationships hit snags; and we can still lose our way sometimes.

The same way we might have regarded that unsure little child in our first letter, let’s regard ourselves today, with an equal measure of love, patience, and understanding.

Like that child, we are breaking new ground every day. We’ve never been this old before. Everything is new.

The world is constantly changing, our bodies are changing, there are new ways of doing things, and we still need words of encouragement.

As we figuratively write that letter to ourselves, or as we visualize sitting on a park bench with ourselves, may our counsel be helpful.

May we realize that those around us need our uplifting words of hope and inspiration as well.

In practicing kindness to ourselves first, we can more easily be kind to others.

In peace and health –

Deidre

Are people fickle?

We claim to not like change. Yet, when it comes to the changing seasons – well, we just can’t wait. As soon as we are entrenched in one season, we seem to be mentally inching toward the next one.

Spring. Who does not love to see the new life springing forth at every turn? Sneeze. And we really want to wear shorts and go to the pool – so summer temperatures would be nice.

Summer. Ahhh. School’s out. Vacations. Beach. Grilling. Darn – it’s too hot! A little drop in the temperature would be great.

Fall. Bingo! I feel new!

Amid the kaleidoscope of changing fall colors, I feel reborn.

Clean slate.

New beginnings.

Do these primordial feelings hail from years as a student and teacher – starting the new school year each fall? Or were my ancestors Jewish, celebrating Rosh Hashanah? Happy Jewish New Year, folks!

Whatever the origins – I’m cleaning house and starting afresh each fall.

Literally – cleaning the house. Deep cleaning. It’s so clean that spring cleaning won’t even be needed! Ha! I could wish.

My muscles alternate between singing and screaming from all the squats, jumps, lifts, stretches, and everything else they have been required to do this week. Ugh. But I feel SO GOOD!

And I need your help. To make foodtalk4you as relevant as possible, I’d like to ask for your input.

What are your areas of need or interest?

1. Are you seeking inspiration for healthier options in fall recipes?

Breakfast choices?

Desserts?

Soups?

Thanksgiving?

2. Need some help with stress reduction or relaxation techniques?

Five minute reset?

Mental escapes?

How to get better sleep?

3. Looking for ways to ramp up the fiber in your diet?

4. Do you have questions about incorporating more variety, nutrition, or anti-inflammatory foods into your diet?

Please drop a line in the comment section so I can tailor the posts this fall to your needs. I greatly appreciate your response – we want each post in foodtalk4you meet you where you are.

In health –

Deidre

Just rub the sides of this container and a genie will emerge in a vapor, ready to grant me three wishes. Oh, boy!

All I really want right now is to 1) breathe better, 2) avoid the stage of this sinus infection where I wish there were microscopic sticks of dynamite I could use to break up the congestion and pressure behind my forehead, nose, and eyes, and 3) get along with life.

My daughter, long the naturopath in her approach to maintaining health, led the parade on this one, and my son was next – much to my surprise – because of his selectively squeamish nature. Now, I have finally joined the band wagon.

Doing what?

Using a neti pot to rinse my nasal passages.

I mean, pouring salt water into one nostril, in anticipation of it draining out the other, just goes against my instincts to avoid drowning, you know?

Let’s start from the beginning. Quoting Alfred Iloreta, MD, Assistant Professor of Otolaryngology-Head and Neck Surgery at Mount Saini Hospital.

“The practice of irrigating the nasal passages with water has been around for approximately 5,000 years with its origins South Asian culture, within the practice of Ayurveda, an ancient practice of yoga. These Yoga Masters called the sinus cleansing technique, “Jala Neti,” and it exists as one of the six main practices in cleansing the body to prepare for the higher practices of yoga.”

While the idea of nasal rinsing was first introduced to Western medicine in the early 1900’s, mass marketing of devices did not happen until the early 1970’s.

An uptick in the interest of using neti pots started in the 1990’s, when there was an increased awareness that overusing antibiotics resulted in antibiotic resistance, and people became more proactive in seeking alternative therapies for sinus issues.

I sure didn’t want to start a round of gut-microbiome-stripping antibiotics if I could help it, so with my daughter’s tutelage, I leaned over the sink, tilted my head just so, and experienced the wonders of neti pot nasal cleansing.

There are a few things to keep in mind:

Always use either distilled water or water that has previously been boiled for a few minutes. Why not use tap water? Tap – and even filtered water – can harbor traces of bacteria and microbes that, while safe to drink thanks to the action of the acidic environment of our stomachs, are not killed when poured into our nasal passages.

There have been rare cases of wicked infections being caused by using unboiled tap water. Yikes!

Thoroughly clean the neti pot after each use, and especially sanitize if sharing one – or even better, get them one for their own use.

Use water warm enough to dissolve the salt, but make sure it has cooled enough after mixing to be comfortable inside your nose.

You can read more about these sensible precautions at Medical News Today.

This was so easy for me to use. The learning curve is quite low, and I can happily report that I am recovering from my sinus condition without having had to use antibiotics!

Twice-a-day use was sufficient during the acute phase. Many people recommend continuing with regular weekly use. I’m not sure if I will be doing that or not; but certainly, my darling neti pot will be put to good use – especially in allergy season.

In health, breathing free and clear –

Deidre

One thought …

That’s a pun, really. Because that’s what I want to mention today – the power of a single thought.

As the sands of time are running out on my four-week stay in Kona, Hawaii, I have once again, personally, experienced the power of ONE thought within my brain – never uttered – upon another human.

I have seen the power of one emotion within myself, expressed by facial animation – create a reaction on a slumbering individual; then reflected back, in a startled response from across the room.

Smoke and mirrors?

No.

Let me set the stage.

I’ve been blessed with being grandma-on-duty this August to help my daughter transition back to work, part-time, since the birth of her beautiful baby boy. Both grandmas are taking turns in helping these first two months of her return to work, until more permanent care can be arranged.

I’ve shared with you before, how to set yourselves up for a positive start each day, by reading aloud our positive affirmation/identity statement. It works. I know it has transformed my mindset and has created positive outcomes I had only hoped for before. Whenever I neglect doing this, things do not go as smoothly.

Okay. Here’s the thing. Perhaps you have experienced this.

As I hold my totally relaxed and sleeping grandson on my chest, appreciating the sights and sounds of Hawaii from the comfort of the lanai, an area of personal concern over an unresolved issue crosses my mind and I start to ruminate – churning the scenario over and over in my head.

What happens? Instantly, the baby startles and becomes restless.

Not once. But over and over. Different days. Different circumstances. Different concerns.

Even more innocently, holding my sleeping grandson and trying to while away the time by scrolling through my phone – one handed – can often result in his becoming restless.

Or my daughter, holding her peaceful son calmly, whispers some news to me and, from across the room, I respond with a silent startle and facial expression.

What does the baby do? Yup. Full body startle.

There are a couple of takeaways from this.

1 – Thoughts are THINGS. What are we sending out to the world? Missiles? Barbs? Frustrations? Or soft pillows of love, forgiveness, hope, redemption, with a release of irritations along with a blessing?

2 – We need to be fully present. Babies – even sleeping ones – need our full attention. Pouring all the love I can into my grandson is equipping him for life. Foundations are being laid that he’ll never realize how it got there; but as we shower him with these THINGS that our thoughts are, we are helping him far into the future.

And my takeaway from the takeaways? We all are just like babies.

In health –

Deidre

NOTE: First and last pictures are from Kona, Hawaii. Couldn’t resist including both of them for us island lovers! – Sheree

Whew! Another year going around the sun! Another double birthday when my daughter, who is my birthday twin, and I get to celebrate together again this year! Which means that when you read this, I will have returned to paradise – absorbing the sights and sounds of the rhythm of life in Kona, Hawaii!

We have vowed to not exchange gifts on our birthday – the gift of being together is enough. We will, instead, revel in just being in the same space and being able to celebrate all that has transpired this past year and anticipate the adventures that are lining up for each of us.

Exciting times – and yet, also a time to give pause as I think about birthday wishes. What do I wish for?

BALANCE

I’ve recently been reminded to balance my energies each day by moderating my commitment levels. Consistently participating in creative projects always renews my strength for more physical and mental endeavors. Satisfying the need for creativity – apart from my writing – is essential.

Pausing a few hours over this past weekend to participate in a class to paint a Four Seasons Tree, proved to be delightfully absorbing. The experience was added proof, my advice in the Caregiver Books Series is true: Creative pastimes can wipe all concerns away. Whether it’s five minutes or fifty, finding an activity that takes all our concentration can be a balm to the spirit.

Have you lost some of that balance in your life? It can look different for each of us.

Some people need to balance their dreaming and hoping with action. There’s only one thing that gets a job done, and it’s not thinking about it.

Sure, a wise person always plans their actions; but nothing is accomplished if that first step isn’t taken. What’s the easiest, smallest step you can take right now to make that plan a reality?

Some _____ (fill in the blank with parents, employees, caregivers, etc.) need to balance their commitment to their _____ (fill in the blank with job, activities, loved ones, etc.) with an equally important commitment to themselves. They cannot fulfill their desire to help one another or be there if they, themselves, are on their last legs.

Balancing energies is a daily need that must be met for the benefit of all.

Whether it’s for my body with enough exercise, quality food, and sleep for my mind/spirit with a variety of endeavors, or with my time – balance is crucial and will be my number one birthday wish.

Balance sounds like a perfect mid-year Word of the Year.

What’s your birthday wish for yourself?

In health –

Deidre

NOTE: Happy Birthday, Deidre and Serena!! I hope it’s fabulous!

Struggle and Gratitude 

Most everything worth doing or achieving contains struggles. 

As we pause in the USA to remember our nation’s history and its path to independence, all our foodtalk4you readers around the world should take a moment to recognize and honor their own personal struggles, and how they dug deep within themselves to get to the other side of those challenges. 

We have had more than a few challenges this week at our blog site.  

Our editor, Sheree Alderman, is probably shopping for a wig because she might have pulled out all her curly red locks. She had to untangle technical difficulties many layers deep to rebroadcast last week’s post to alert you of an important poster and linkage, showing the signs and symptoms of heart attacks. Please check that post out HERE – it makes so much more sense with the poster. 

Trying to unravel that problem opened a hornet’s nest of other woes – but with perseverance and an undauntable mindset, she finally got the clarification and technical help she needed.  

My heart is full of gratitude for Sheree and for the one person who finally helped her – and us – otherwise, you would not be reading this.  

And a big thank you goes to a long-time reader of foodtalk4you and author, Shaun L. Griffiths, in Poland, who alerted me of the missing link. I’ve reviewed Shaun’s books on foodtalk4you before – do check out his awesome young adult fantasy books HERE.

Sheree is an author as well! Check out her beautiful and inspiring children’s books HERE.

Speaking of books and gratitude – my deepest thanks to each one of you who so generously pre-ordered my future new release, Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions. Your identities are hidden from my eyes, but I am so touched and humbled by your support for this book and its success.  

You also know by now that your pre-order has been canceled. The Emotions book is still going to be published, but the time frame for that new release could not be modified enough, following Amazon’s guidelines, to get the job done in the way I wanted. 

As I mentioned in the 20 June post, the Caregiver Series is going to get the ‘Cadillac treatment’ it deserves through new cover designs, formatting, advertising – the works. I am creating added follow-up support for readers based upon their needs. This all takes time, effort, and perseverance through struggles.  

So, let’s all pause for a moment to reflect on what personal characteristics have helped us move through the challenges of life. How did you power through adversity? How did you find inspiration, the answer to a problem, or that last burst of energy? What priority did you use to do the right thing? How did you find patience? 

Those are great starting points for writing that personal identity and affirmation statement I wrote about on the 20^th – have you penned yours, yet? Please let me know if you have and how you use it. 

I am enough. 

I am learning. 

I am changing and growing. 

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In health and gratitude –  

Deidre  

Note from Sheree: We’re just real people here behind your computer screen, working hard every week to share our knowledge, experiences – and sometimes, the chaotic and crazy moments of our everyday lives.  

Happy Independence Day – Let freedom ring! S’