Category Archives: Anti-Inflammatory Foods

Ah, Nuts!!

Nuts!

Oh, man! It’s been a long time since I had a fresh batch of nuts straight out of the dehydrator.

Light. Crunchy. That certain snap when you break one in half.

Mmmmm!

The goal was to have some nuts on hand for fall baking, but I’m telling you, these pecans are the best snack food! It may be a struggle saving some for those gluten-free, banana nut muffins I wanted to bake.

But, what’s this about dehydrating nuts? They look pretty dehydrated already.

Well, the goal is to ‘activate’ them. Shucks, just let me quote my first book, Toolkit for Wellness:

“Raw nuts are better than nuts highly processed in “Franken oils,” but raw nuts still have factors in them that inhibit proper absorption and can contribute to unhappy tummies. Enter the “activated nut,” which has been handled in such a way as to eliminate the anti-digestive phytates and to activate beneficial digestive enzymes instead.”

So, there you go.

Once you have had an activated nut, you’ll never want to go back to using the others.

Here’s the process for activating raw nuts right at home:

Using glass bowls, dissolve about 1 teaspoon of sea salt in 6 cups of water; add raw nuts, and soak.

My large bag of nuts from Costco requires two large bowls. The nuts will swell with water, so you need to give them enough room.

The water will turn quite brown. I have found that non-metal bowls work best as the brown nut residue can stain the metal ones.

Walnuts, almonds, and pecans can soak for 12 hours; cashews take just 6 hours.

Pour the soaked nuts and the water into a colander placed in the sink and thoroughly rinse them. Spread the rinsed nuts onto a large towel, rolling the towel up to let it absorb any extra moisture for a few minutes.

Remember the brown residue? The rinsed nuts will also leave a bit of color, so, I recommend using a large old bath towel dedicated to nuts (and blueberries!).

You can then move on to the dehydrating process.

If using a dehydrator, spread the nuts out in a single layer, leaving a bit of space between each one for air circulation. Place the trays into the dehydrator set to 115-125 degrees Fahrenheit (temperature for “living foods”) and set the timer for twelve hours.

Test one for dryness when time is up; add time as needed.

If using the oven method, spread nuts out on large baking trays – do not crowd them. Set oven for the lowest temperature possible.

The drying time will be shorter since the temperature is higher than the dehydrator. Stir the nuts every hour and check for crispness after 6 hours.

Store activated nuts in a closed container in a cool environment. Nuts can be frozen for longer storage.

Honestly, these activated nuts have such unique qualities of flavor, crispiness, and are gentler on the tummy – your baked goods will shine!

Then, again, you might just forget the sugary baked goods, save time, and use these as holiday snack food gifts!

In health –

Deidre

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Grandma Moses

Heroes.

Whenever I am asked to name my heroes, I find myself puzzled to name just a few because I am inspired by so many, and I am grateful for so many others along the way who were instrumental at critical times in my life.

I had no dramatically obvious heroes, like someone who saved me from a burning building.

My parents, no doubt, saved us kids from certain death countless times every day as we grew up. Hero parents? Absolutely. Thanks Mom! Thanks Dad!

But what about people whose inspiration plays in the back of your mind your whole life?

I think those folks are heroes, too. Don’t you?

Two of my heroes’ inspiring messages are playing out in my life as a septuagenarian, right now.

The inspiring hero I know the most about was forced to give up her favorite pastime, embroidery, when she was seventy-six because of advancing arthritis.

Inspired by her sister’s comment, that holding a paintbrush instead of a fine embroidery needle and thread would be easier, she took up painting at seventy-eight.

No lessons, no pencil drawings to practice perspective, and no knowledge of mixing colors.

She just used supplies at hand from the garden shed: some leftover house paint and scrap boards.

And she painted.

No grand scheme, just painting to pass the time; and to please herself, as she recreated scenes from her former farm life.

Fast forward:

She was invited to the White House by President Truman when she was eighty-nine.

When she was ninety-three, she appeared on the cover of TIME magazine.

Before she died in 1961 at age 101, she had painted over 1,500 works.

Years after her death, one of her works sold for $1.36 million.

A beautiful telling of the whole story of Grandma Moses can be FOUND HERE.

What has always made Grandma Moses’ inspiration real to me came as a gift from my hero mom when I was a freshman in college. She gave me Samuel Clement Moore’s, The Night Before Christmas, fully illustrated by Grandma Moses.

Not only was I holding a piece of Americana, but I was also holding the inspiration that – even as I was just starting to invent and discover who I was and what I’d become in college – I could continue to grow, expand, reinvent myself, and flourish well into my advanced years.

Age is not a limitation to development, discovery, or productivity.

I know less about my other similarly inspiring hero even though she was in my family.

One of my grandmother’s sisters, Iona, also became a painter very late in life. I am privileged to have one of her oil paintings in my home.

But the message is the same one from both of these late blooming artists: Do what you love, and self-discovery does not stop at any age.

Yes, I do dabble in artwork – mostly associated with hand-crafted and hand-painted cards.

But I started this blog when I was sixty-four, and I started writing and publishing books at sixty-five, sixty-nine, seventy-four, and seventy-five years of age.

Speaking to groups and giving online presentations to support family caregivers is my delight.

As Louise Hay – another inspiring hero of mine – always said, “The Moment of Power is NOW!”

Use your power – NOW – at ANY age!


In health –

Deidre

Autoimmune Hide and Seek

When the experiences of a childhood game of hide and seek are applied to medical conditions, it’s no longer a fun game.  

Many of our foodtalk4you readers are familiar with their own frustrating experiences of medical hide and seek. An odd symptom here. A strange feeling there. Periods of, “I just don’t feel well.”  

Wondering if it’s “all in my head.”  

Feeling discounted by family, friends, and professionals who are thinking it is all in your head.  

We’re talking about the shadowy world of autoimmune disease.  

May is Autoimmune Disease Awareness Month, and I wanted to, once again, touch on the topic and highlight some general approaches that are applicable to all of us.  

Millions of people live with autoimmune diseases, yet awareness remains surprisingly low.  Conditions such as Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, Multiple Sclerosis, and Celiac Disease affect daily life in ways others may not see – symptoms are often invisible, unpredictable, and misunderstood.  

Autoimmune diseases can affect almost any part or organ system of the body and are often difficult to identify. Fatigue is one of the most common—and most disabling—symptoms many people experience.  

It’s not hard to see that autoimmune disease can thus impact more than the person’s body – it can also affect relationships, careers, caregiving responsibilities, and mental well-being.  

At foodtalk4you, our focus has always been on the lifestyle choices that support overall wellness for those with autoimmune disease, because these healthy approaches can benefit everyone.  

Consider:  

  1. Anti-inflammatory foods  
  2. Stress reduction  
  3. Improved sleep  
  4. Gentle movement  
  5. Reducing processed foods  
  6. Identifying food sensitivities  
  7. Mindfulness  

This reads like the table of contents to my first book, Toolkit for Wellness. I call such an approach an ‘Anti-inflammatory Life.’ 

To manage an anti-inflammatory life, consider adopting an anti-inflammatory diet with these guidelines:  Focus on whole foods, including fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.  

Incorporate healthy fats, such as olive oil, avocados, and nuts, to reduce inflammation.  

Limit processed foods, refined sugars, and trans fats that can trigger inflammatory responses.  

Include omega-3 fatty acids from sources like fatty fish, flaxseeds, and walnuts.  

Stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water and herbal teas.  

Consider eliminating common allergens like gluten and dairy to identify potential triggers.  

Our greater awareness can lead to:  earlier diagnosis  better support systems  reduced stigma  more compassionate workplaces and families .

Sometimes the most meaningful support begins simply by believing someone when they say, “I don’t feel well,” even when they look fine on the outside.  

Take time to listen and just be there, supporting them with your presence.  

If you are playing hide-and-seek with symptoms and answers, continue to embrace an anti-inflammatory lifestyle, as you also approach your health care provider with questions about auto-immune disease testing.  

Next week, I will be posting an Ayurvedic staple, which will help all of us on our anti-inflammatory journey!   

In health –  

Deidre

The Pancake of Champions

Once again, I saw something healthy and yummy online and tried it – tweaking the ingredient’s list as always.

There was already a great lineup of gluten-free, high-protein ingredients, but when I was through, it kind of looked like a recipe list for Kitchen Sink Pancakes!

Any recipe for pancakes – for me – is more of a concept recipe. I might not have all the ingredients and/or I might make substitutions.

So, knock yourself out with this one.

The core of the concept is to create pancakes that are:

1. Naturally sweet – needing no syrup to raise blood sugars

    2. Gluten-free – to be non-inflammatory and to support a happy belly

    3. High in fiber – to aide in digestion

    4. High in protein – to support growth and repair

    Pancakes are often the antithesis of these concepts because they are high carbohydrate, pro-inflammatory sponges begging for tons of butter and rivers of syrup.

    The original recipe featured 2 grated apples – which was great because I had two apples that needed to be used. I also had one last banana needing a home, so I added that, too.

    Because of the overall course texture from the apples, oatmeal, and nuts, this pancake batter started looking more like fritter batter. So, that’s what I am calling these – pancake fritters!

    Here’s the recipe for Pancake Fritters:

    First, stir 1 Tablespoon of chia seeds into 1/3 cup of water and set them aside to soak for at least 10 minutes to use in the wet ingredients. This provides fiber and protein.

    Then, combine the dry ingredients in a large bowl:

    -1 cup gluten-free oatmeal
    -1 teaspoon of baking powder
    -1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
    -Pinch of salt
    -2 grated apples

    Optional: a handful of chopped walnuts.

    In a food processor or in a bowl using an immersion blender, blend the following wet ingredients until smooth:

    • Soaked chia seed mixture
    • 2 eggs
    • 1 Tablespoon of olive oil
    • 2/3 cup of Greek yogurt
    • 2/3 cup of cottage cheese
    • 1 banana, broken into pieces
    • Vanilla to taste

    Add the wet ingredients to the dry ingredients, and combine. Add milk of choice to thin batter as needed or, if the batter is too thin, stir in 1-2 Tablespoons of gluten-free flour at a time, until desired consistency is achieved.

    Rather than normal-sized pancakes, I created smaller, fritter-sized ones, using a spoon to pat down a small scoop of batter placed on the hot, oiled griddle.

    This recipe will feed a small crowd, so feel free to cut this in half – I will, next time, for the two of us.

    The apple, banana, vanilla, and cinnamon help create a ‘sweet’ profile that simply doesn’t need syrup.

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    The high-fiber and protein elements support lasting fullness and satisfaction.

    There are so many ways to adjust this according to personal preferences and what is in the cupboard or fridge at the time.

    I hope you enjoy it!

    In health –

    Deidre

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    FAT! (No, It’s Not What You Think)

    It’s a holy trinity of sorts … the three macronutrients found in the food we eat: carbohydrates, protein, and fat. These three, along with the micronutrients in food – vitamins and minerals – are what keep our bodies functioning at optimum levels. Macronutrients are the three elements we need to consume the most, followed by the micronutrients we also need, but in lesser quantities.

    Like most things dealing with our health, each element is linked to others in ways which creates dependency for successful functioning.

    Case in point – a recent email from Chris Kresser, reminded me of one of these vital connections between a macronutrient having a crucial role in our ability to absorb micronutrients derived from vegetables.

    He emphasized – eating nutritious food is just half the battle. How we prepare that food, either in cooking or presenting it – with a sauce or dressing, totally influences how much of the vital micronutrients we will absorb. And, absorbing the nutritive elements is why we eat, right?

    How sad it would be if we bought the best organic produce we can find, only to miss out in absorbing the nutrients we need.

    Take the powerful carotenoids found in kale. Carotenoids are natural, fat-soluble yellow, orange, and red pigments synthesized by plants, algae, fungi, and bacteria. As powerful antioxidants, they protect cells from damage, support immune function, and are essential for eye health. 

    We want carotenoids, for sure!

    But in a 2025 study by the University of Missouri, researchers found that raw kale alone, produced very low carotenoid absorption, and cooking it slightly reduced the bioavailability further.

    A significant increase came when researchers added an oil-based sauce to either the cooking process or when the oil was added after cooking.

    You see, some of the micronutrients are fat-soluble nutrients, including vitamins A, D, E, and K – along with carotenoids like lutein, beta-carotene, and lycopene. These nutrients require dietary fat to be absorbed; and without it, a meaningful portion of these compounds pass through the digestive system largely unused.

    So, preparing and serving your healthy veggies without fat (eating raw or steaming), and then serving plain or with some kind of fat-free sauce or dressing, will work against your goal of absorbing the nutrients you are hoping to get.

    The no-fat craze definitely has its drawbacks.

    Another study by the University of Iowa found a dose-dependent relationship, with two tablespoons of oil producing a meaningfully greater absorption than smaller amounts.

    Whether you are sautéing greens, roasting veggies using a drizzle of oil, or using an olive oil-based salad dressing – these oil-enhanced methods are effective in ramping up absorption of the critical elements we need.

    Next week, we will look at various kinds of oils because, of course, there’s a difference there, too.

    In health –

    Deidre

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    Oatmeal by the Slice?

    Oatmeal by the slice?

    Talk about seasonal foods!

    While I long for okra to use in my famous grits-eggs-okra breakfast scramble, any I find in stores will have traveled far—picked before full ripeness and preserved to survive the journey.

    Not great for flavor, nutrition, affordability, or sustainability.
    Plus, the natural rhythm of seasonal foods supports our needs:

    Summer produce tends to be hydrating and cooling.

    Fall and winter foods are often more grounding and energy dense.

    So, while our readers in the southern hemisphere are enjoying the bounty of summer foods, I am longing for warming soups and root vegetables – especially since ole man winter has decided to settle in for a spell.

    We covered Hasselback Potatoes recently. Now, I want to try that technique on sweet potatoes!

    But, on these chilly mornings, I am hearing the sirens of oatmeal calling once again.

    Breakfast cereals by themselves, however, don’t hold me because of their carbohydrate hit. What could I do to ramp up the protein component?

    While casually discussing my recipe with our editor, Sheree, I also mentioned I intentionally prepare more than needed so I can make a loaf of oatmeal to use later. What?

    Sheree was mystified.

    We’ll get back to that bit of magic in a minute.

    First, for the current version of my vat of gruel, I can thank my disorganized pantry for allowing the can of Hershey’s cocoa to spontaneously eject from its perch to serve as inspiration!

    Yes! Add cocoa to oatmeal!

    What goes with cocoa? Peanut butter!

    And so, it went … See the downloadable recipe for the details on how I ramped up the protein content.

    The magic comes the following mornings when I don’t have to start from scratch for oatmeal because the leftover oatmeal was put into a loaf pan, covered, and refrigerated.

    Did you know oatmeal holds its shape when cooled?

    All that’s needed is to lift slices of now solid oatmeal out of the loaf pan and sauté them in a non-stick pan coated with butter.

    Oh, yum!

    Are you imaging your own version? Adding chopped nuts, dried fruits, fresh apples, applesauce, coconut?

    Maybe ingredients will jump out of your cupboard for inspiration!
    My next task is to own getting the pantry reorganized … aye, aye!

    In health –

    Deidre

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    Come In, Sit Down, and Let’s Have a Cuppa!

    My first experience with coffee happened when I was three or four years old.

    Toddling around the house, I would happen upon a long forgotten cup of stone-cold coffee dregs my parents had left behind.

    Just a sip or two was left.

    Thinking I was doing something tantalizingly decadent, I would rescue those last sips! Tee-hee!

    Eventually, I became a ‘legal’ drinker of coffee.

    Fast forward to our post on 6 Sept 2022, where I shared about reading a comprehensive article concerning medicinal mushrooms – I’ve been on the lookout for ways to incorporate more varieties of cultivated mushrooms into my diet.

    Wait! Weren’t we just talking about coffee?

    Yes!

    For years, I have been seeing all kinds of ads and articles about mushroom coffees that promises nerve calming benefits – coupled with mental clarity and no coffee jitters.

    Earlier this year, I followed an article about mushroom coffee comparisons and roamed on the internet in search of the perfect purchase.

    I went to the sites of several brands and was immediately turned off by “starter packages” linked to initial purchases that would automatically renew.

    I just wanted to try their stuff. If I didn’t like it, I would have had to cancel a subscription. No thank you.

    Finally, I found a brand that seemed to check all the boxes and wasn’t asking me to make a life commitment.

    I tried it. I liked it. It was not hard to find them to reorder. Take that purveyors of subscriptions!

    So, I am using Cuppa brand mushroom coffee. I am not saying this will be good for you and, I am not affiliated with Cuppa. We just use it to replace that second cup of coffee when we want more to drink.

    Many people use Cuppa for all their coffee drinking.

    Cuppa contains:

    Coffee and Matcha for flavor, energy, and antioxidants.
    Ashwagandha for anxiety and stress relief, and concentration.
    Lion’s Mane for focus, mood, immune support, and brain health. Cordyceps for immune support, stamina, and anti-inflammatory support.
    MCT/Fiber for energy, gut health, and to reduce jitters.
    L-Theanine for stopping jitters, sleep support, and better focus.

    Of late, I have needed something extra to warm me up as our temperatures drop outside, and my mug of Cuppa has filled the bill.
    I can attest to no caffeine jitters.

    Mental clarity and focus? Perhaps.

    Improved immunity … I can’t say since I am already doing a lot of other things. Hey, I’m not sick.

    There is some Arabica coffee in this mix; so for us, the flavor is not strange. It is different – but satisfying.

    I have chosen to add a splash of creamer and just a pinch of Sugar in the Raw to the Cuppa powder, which I froth before adding the rest of the hot water.

    Now, maybe Santa can get those Christmas cards created and mailed out soon!

    In health – Deidre

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    Rescued by Chia Seeds

    Well, I didn’t intend to ignore my obligations, but that’s what I almost did.

    Our trusty editor, Sheree, just sent a subtle message, “Hey … got a post for me?”

    In other words, “Hey, the Tuesday post is going out, uh … tomorrow … we don’t have anything for our readers!”

    Gulp!

    After completing the Caregiver Summit last week I had been preparing for since early spring, we celebrated the positive reception of my message, packed our bags, and headed out the next day for a long-awaited trip to Disney World!

    The cold snap that is affecting the mid-Atlantic on up north, is also affecting the southern Atlantic states. The low in Kissimmee, Florida, where we are staying is 36 F tonight – and the high tomorrow is slated to be 59 F.

    We abandoned the idea of seeing the fireworks-light show-water fountain display at Epcot again tonight because we didn’t bring parkas. To top that off, Sheree is making snow men in West Virginia!

    Since our accommodations have a full kitchen, I knew we would be taking many of our meals in whenever we were not at Disney World.

    How do you approach vacation cooking and meal prep?

    Our first stop coming into Kissimmee was to go to the grocery store.

    To compliment the assorted nuts, peanut butter, crackers, chia seeds, fresh berries (blueberry, black berry, and raspberry), and apples, we picked up almond milk, two bottles of protein-boosted smoothies, coffee, gluten free cereals, eggs, Greek yogurt, gouda, sliced ham, sour dough bread, mustard, butter, hummus, and guacamole.

    Travel and eating out can create havoc for the “smooth functioning of the intestines.”

    To ward against getting “backed up” we regularly consume chia seed pudding. Recipes vary, but this is what I am currently doing:

    Chia Seed Pudding – per individual serving

    In a small bowl or a small glass (that will hold about 10 ounces) stir together:

    2-3 tablespoons chia seeds

    1/3 – 1/2 cup flavored smoothie (these can contain added sugar, so I don’t use a lot)

    1/3 – 1/2 cup almond milk

    2 – 3 Tablespoons of Greek yogurt (can be fruit flavored to blend in with the flavor of smoothie you use)

    A handful of fresh fruit that compliments the other flavors.

    Download your copy of Chia Seed Pudding below:

    Depending upon the amount of chia seeds and fluid used – and if you refrigerate this overnight – this “pudding” can thicken enough to need a spoon or can be thin enough to drink.

    Along with proper daily hydration, and eating whole food with lots of fiber, chia pudding can be our best friend – especially when traveling.

    In health –

    Deidre and Remi

    I sure hope we get to see Remi’s Ratatouille Show in Disney this week! They were having technical difficulties today.

    Hunting For Hummus? We Can Help!

    We have always liked hummus. We buy it frequently, and I have made it on several occasions. But, during our Tucson adventure recently, we ate A LOT of it!

    A restaurant soon became our favorite in Tucson because of its hummus. The Pita Jungle offers an appetizer plate with three kinds of the delicious spread, along with enough pita bread to dip into – until your heart’s content.

    And we did!

    Especially our two-and-a-half year old grandson. We couldn’t figure out which of the three flavors was our favorite – tried as we might.

    So, upon returning home, we longed for some delicious hummus – homemade, please! Why? Because, there is a difference!

    Good hummus is, generally, thick and smooth; and gives you the impression of heaven – floating on a pillow-soft, airy-like fluffy cloud! Ahhhh!

    After perusing old messenger entries – I use messenger like a filing cabinet for things I want to remember. Do you do that? I found a video of some fellow who seemed to know his way around a chickpea, so I followed his lead.

    While the ultimate recipe for hummus may start with dried chickpeas/garbanzo beans, I used the tried-and-true canned variety, using two cans – equal to 3 cups – of chickpeas.

    Before throwing those chickpeas into the food processor, however, there’s a secret first step!

    After draining and rinsing the canned chickpeas, put them into a saucepan, cover with water, and add 2 teaspoons of baking soda. Bring it up to boil and lower it to a simmer for 5 minutes. The hull of each chickpea will be released.

    When the time is up and the hulls are starting to release, remove the pan from the stove, pour off the water and the hulls, adding cold water to stop the cooking and aid in eliminating the hulls.

    In practice, the hulls were released but did not easily pour off. I ended up skimming and manually removing most of the hulls as I placed the hull-less chickpeas into the food processor. I look forward to improving my pouring-off technique. If most of the hulls are removed, that will be fine.

    To the food processor with the chickpeas, add the juice of one lemon, ½ teaspoon of Kosher salt, and 2 cloves of garlic.

    Process this mixture for 7-8 minutes. The mixture will get warm so don’t be alarmed.

    Add 1/3 cup of tahini to the mixture, about 2 tablespoons of extra virgin olive oil, and process for 3 more minutes. The tahini is added late because its proteins would otherwise cause a coagulation of the hummus, which cannot be reversed.

    Taste test for any desired seasoning adjustments. We felt it needed more salt and garlic, but I couldn’t add more raw garlic at this point, so we settled on a couple additions of garlic salt with a tasting in between additions to guide us. A few pulses from the food processor did the trick.

    Transfer this very warm cloud of hummus to a bowl and place it in the refrigerator for three hours to cool.

    Please feel free to download the recipe below!

    At home, we used tortilla chips to scoop up this delightful dish. It can be stored for a week in the fridge.

    We served it at a party we held; and are now enjoying lunches consisting of a few chips and our hummus and some leftover homemade guacamole – you couldn’t ask for a healthier snack.

    I hope you will try making your own cloud of hummus soon!

    In health – (and hummus!)

    Deidre

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    The Birthday Garden

    A cake with candles? Awesome!

    And people who sing happy birthday? Fabulous!

    But a garden? A birthday garden?

    This was a new idea for me and was a gift from a trusted resource to mark my own recent birthday.

    Our reflections of where we are now, and where we want to be in the future, often exist just in those few seconds it takes to catch a deep breath to blow out those candles on the cake.

    The Birthday Garden is a tool developed by Julia Poernbacher, M.Sc., which is a metaphor she uses to reflect on the past year, celebrating personal growth, and to set intentions for the future.

    Here’s a summary of the steps:

    Look at your garden

    With closed eyes, take a few deep breaths, and visualize your unique garden space:

    What does it look like? Is it thriving or does it need care?

    What’s growing? The flowers and plants represent your successes, joys, and potentials

    How about weeds? They represent your challenges, habits, and things that no longer serve you.

    Are there areas that need more attention or feel neglected?

    Celebrate the harvest

    The ‘fruits’ of your harvest are your successes, the moments of fulfillment through experiences and relationships of the last year.

    Identify three significant successes or joyful experiences.

    Reflect on what helped those successes bloom: what actions, people, or circumstances played a part?

    Reflect on what those successes taught you and how they made you feel.

    Pull the weeds

    Maintenance is a part of every garden’s upkeep. Consider the habits, limiting beliefs, people, or challenges that may have held back your growth, no longer serving you.

    Reflect on three things you are ready to release that have held back your growth. Perhaps, create a releasing ritual to help you let go of them. Consider writing them down on papers and holding each one close to your chest as you reflect on how it has affected you. Acknowledge its role in your life and how it made you feel. Then, with a deep breath in and out, set that paper down away from you.

    Plant new seeds

    Choose what you want to plant in your garden for the new year ahead.

    What personal qualities do you want to develop, and what are the exact steps you will take to nurture them?

    Reflect on three goals, qualities, or intentions for your garden, aligning your ‘seed’ with your action steps to keep it alive.

    Tending your garden

    As you create a plan for success, consider how you will maintain your garden through the coming year, asking yourself:

    What goal am I growing? What habits will help me? How will I stay accountable? Who or what can support my efforts? How will I know that I have succeeded?

    A vision statement

    Write one that summarizes your over-arching goals and keep it somewhere you can see a reminder.

    For example: “This year, I nurture a more-balanced approach to my efforts and interests. Being mindful that change takes time, I will celebrate the small victories all year long!”

    In health –

    Deidre

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