Category Archives: Book Fair

The Weatherman

Every once in a while, we come across a book that moves us.

Never did I imagine, a memoir written by a young meteorologist in Eastern North Carolina would make me want to shout about it from the proverbial rooftops – but I am.

This book caught my eye because I used to live in his broadcast area; I love hearing about weather, and I needed some inspiration!

As a former classroom teacher, I would want every employee in the educational system to read this book – along with every student.

And every parent.

And … every human.

Why?

Because you will develop an understanding that will give birth to compassion.

Because there will be inspiration that will give birth to fortitude that will result in accomplishments.

Because there will be good news on so many levels!

It’s a thin book – just 3/8 of an inch thick – but its message goes on for miles.

The Weather Inside, A Memoir of Storms, Survival, and Self-Discovery, written by Russell Je’Juan James, is the book that I would want everyone to read – especially as we start this new academic year.

The author, now a meteorologist who stands in front of cameras and intense lighting to deliver critical weather information to his audience that depends upon his forecasts – especially in hurricane prone Eastern North Carolina – was diagnosed with autism that was so severe he could not talk in complete sentences for years.

Written straight from the heart, Russell James’s ingeniously laid out story line and honest account of what he was thinking, feeling, and experiencing during those silent years and beyond is astounding.

His struggle and overwhelm were real. Some of that struggle and overwhelm will continue daily for his entire life. How he arrived at his coping techniques is clearly explained; along with how he incorporates them into his daily schedule.

The appendix to his book offers specific resources for autistic adults, parents of autistic children, and a detailed guide for mental health exercises for autistic adults.

Even if we are not directly linked to autism – we live, work, and go to school with autistic individuals who are somewhere on that diverse Autism Spectrum.

Be prepared to live with greater understanding and compassion after reading his account.

Be prepared to be amazed by this man who is finishing his PhD, while regularly reporting the weather and coping every moment with his autism – invisible to his audience – but made visible by his open account.

In health –

Deidre

Resetting My Last Nerve!

“What’s with all of these resets, Deidre?”

Last week it was a lymphatic system reset – what’s next?

First, let me ask you, are you doing the quick lymphatic reset?

It has helped us to start a delightful new habit at our house with 15-20 minutes of weight-bearing exercise – and the lymphatic reset right after our glass of (now alkaline) copper water and before our cup of coffee.

Normal everyday life always requires resets, right?

We’re a day older, and the body is constantly changing; we are responding to new situations; we learn better ways, or we have to figure out new ways to pivot. Resets abound.

So, here’s another tool for our Toolkits for Health: two resets for the vagus nerve.

The Autonomic Nervous System controls many of our automatic body functions and is divided into two main branches: the Sympathetic Nervous System (fight or flight) and the Parasympathetic Nervous System (rest and digest).

The vagus nerve—our “Great Wandering Nerve”—is the longest of the cranial nerves. It leaves the skull, travels through the neck and continues throughout the body, connecting with organs – including the heart and gut. It plays a major role in activating the parasympathetic, rest-and-digest response.

It is easy to see the frantic, stress-filled fight or flight responses ever-present in our lives. Our heads are spinning with often anxious thoughts, worries, and activities.

Hardly a healthful setup for regaining our composure.

How can we calm down in a way that will help us greet the challenges before us?

How to get our vagus nerve humming along in ‘chill out’ mode?

By humming!

Reset number 1: Weather you use a yoga “ohm,” or you hum a tune, by breathing in through the nose and humming closed-lipped, you are stimulating your vagus nerve!

Place your fingertips at the base of your throat/neck. Hum. Feel those vibrations?

Keeping your lips closed, open your mouth as you hum.

Move your fingers around your face and nose, feeling the vibrations as you change how you hum.

You can even feel the vibrations of humming in your chest.

Try humming for two to three minutes while you wash your face in cold water each morning – another great vagus nerve stimulant – and continue while you get dressed, for example.

Anytime, anywhere – an easy tool at our aide.

For more information and a video go here:

Reset number 2: try this delightful set of three head movements that created an immediate positive result for me by Dr. Jon Saunders:

Because we hold so much tension and stress in our head and neck areas, these easy movements can open up the vagus nerve’s calming influence right where we need it the most.

Used together or separately, I found the effect of all three produced an almost magical release in the physical tension I had been dealing with for two weeks in my head and neck. Definitely, something I will be repeating!

Next week, we will change topics as I share a jewel of a story about accepting, over-coming, adapting, and not listening to negative voices. A must read for families, educators, and for all humans who care.

In health –

Deidre

Tai Chi and Staying Peaceful

My morning practice has become non-negotiable.

When you begin the day grounded and intentional — before the noise of the world and the needs of others take over — you make it possible to meet whatever comes your way with greater calm, clarity, and grace.

But there is one recently added element of my practice that transformed me in such a profound way today. I was tingling, maybe buzzing, with awareness that had me noticing a smile and a glow from the inside out.

But first, to recap:

One large glass of copper water. Check.

Walk around the neighborhood – no earbuds – to fully participate with the sights, sounds, and feels around me. Check.

Sunlight in my eyes to help calibrate my hormones for the new day as I looked up to the skies with a grateful, seeking heart. Check.

Savor quiet conversation with my partner as we enjoy our first cup of coffee. Check.

Heading to the sunny window of my office – my space – I return to my grateful heart and an openness to silent contemplation and receptivity, incorporating my affirmations. Check.

Then, came the revelation.

Already feeling balanced – and what I thought was tension-free – I turned to a new offering from my recent endeavors in Tai Chi.

Why Tai Chi?

It seems more assessable, because there is no equipment or special clothing. I do Tai Chi standing up, and it’s usually done with shoes on. So, totally convenient: just me, upright.

Finding a practitioner who resonates has been a journey – there are so many ads in social media that offer false transformations and whose practices look nothing like real Tai Chi.

I first wanted to learn about Tai Chi walking, which uses a gentle shifting of body weight from one leg to another, creating an ’empty’ or weightless leg. It focuses on slow, purposeful movements to move – versus using momentum.

I am now subscribing to Ann Swanson on YouTube to learn more.

This morning I discovered her Beginner Tai Chi Warmups to Ease Pain | Qi gong Morning Routine for

Flexibility & Balance and my day has been transformed.

I am not in pain, off balance, or inflexible. I was already feeling an inner balance, peace, and confidence – but I wanted to do a bit of Tai Chi to finish the start of my day.

One of the benefits to Tai Chi – aside from better balance, fall prevention, and joint relief – is the calming quality of this ‘moving meditation’ – anchoring our attention to the present moment.

This beginner’s warm-up video utilized what I call a body scan at the beginning of the practice and at the close. Immediately, my focus was drawn in to how I was standing and what I was feeling.

I wrote about this technique a few years ago – see Foodtalk4you April 2021 – I also have recommended body scans for caregivers to increase self-awareness in my book, Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions.

The magical mixture of Swanson’s guidance and my slow, gentle and deliberate movements – coupled with my growing self-awareness – produced in me, not only deep relaxation, but an indescribable vibrant glow!

All I can say is, “Wow!” – all in under 15 minutes!

Try it – you’ll like it!

In health –

Deidre

Autoimmune Hide and Seek

When the experiences of a childhood game of hide and seek are applied to medical conditions, it’s no longer a fun game.  

Many of our foodtalk4you readers are familiar with their own frustrating experiences of medical hide and seek. An odd symptom here. A strange feeling there. Periods of, “I just don’t feel well.”  

Wondering if it’s “all in my head.”  

Feeling discounted by family, friends, and professionals who are thinking it is all in your head.  

We’re talking about the shadowy world of autoimmune disease.  

May is Autoimmune Disease Awareness Month, and I wanted to, once again, touch on the topic and highlight some general approaches that are applicable to all of us.  

Millions of people live with autoimmune diseases, yet awareness remains surprisingly low.  Conditions such as Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, Multiple Sclerosis, and Celiac Disease affect daily life in ways others may not see – symptoms are often invisible, unpredictable, and misunderstood.  

Autoimmune diseases can affect almost any part or organ system of the body and are often difficult to identify. Fatigue is one of the most common—and most disabling—symptoms many people experience.  

It’s not hard to see that autoimmune disease can thus impact more than the person’s body – it can also affect relationships, careers, caregiving responsibilities, and mental well-being.  

At foodtalk4you, our focus has always been on the lifestyle choices that support overall wellness for those with autoimmune disease, because these healthy approaches can benefit everyone.  

Consider:  

  1. Anti-inflammatory foods  
  2. Stress reduction  
  3. Improved sleep  
  4. Gentle movement  
  5. Reducing processed foods  
  6. Identifying food sensitivities  
  7. Mindfulness  

This reads like the table of contents to my first book, Toolkit for Wellness. I call such an approach an ‘Anti-inflammatory Life.’ 

To manage an anti-inflammatory life, consider adopting an anti-inflammatory diet with these guidelines:  Focus on whole foods, including fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins.  

Incorporate healthy fats, such as olive oil, avocados, and nuts, to reduce inflammation.  

Limit processed foods, refined sugars, and trans fats that can trigger inflammatory responses.  

Include omega-3 fatty acids from sources like fatty fish, flaxseeds, and walnuts.  

Stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water and herbal teas.  

Consider eliminating common allergens like gluten and dairy to identify potential triggers.  

Our greater awareness can lead to:  earlier diagnosis  better support systems  reduced stigma  more compassionate workplaces and families .

Sometimes the most meaningful support begins simply by believing someone when they say, “I don’t feel well,” even when they look fine on the outside.  

Take time to listen and just be there, supporting them with your presence.  

If you are playing hide-and-seek with symptoms and answers, continue to embrace an anti-inflammatory lifestyle, as you also approach your health care provider with questions about auto-immune disease testing.  

Next week, I will be posting an Ayurvedic staple, which will help all of us on our anti-inflammatory journey!   

In health –  

Deidre

One Small Step …

… leads to a gentle transformation.

Vata, Pitta, and Kapha – discovering my dosha seemed like the most sensible first step. Have you Googled, “what dosha am I,” yet?

Haha! I’m still noodling around with that one! Banyanbotanicals.com is proving to be a useful, user-friendly, free resource which also offers an assortment of free next steps, including yoga variations, to help each dosha.

Those questionnaires are a bit tricky because it’s important to understand the point of reference for each item and to be mindful of how you used to be – versus how you are now, including when you were at your most-balanced state – versus – when you were stressed.

Taking assessments from various free sources would be beneficial to more accurately zero-in on your dosha. Banyan recommends retaking the quizzes to get a feel of how you are changing over time.

So, doshas aside, the text I am using to launch my journey of self-discovery is Kate O’Donnell’s The Everyday Ayurveda Cookbook.

Just starting with her introduction, I was already finding myself skipping around her excellent book to learn more about each of the concepts I was discovering. There are bookmarks and Post-it notes everywhere!

Which brings us back to the grounding philosophy I have always used: make any changes to your life in teeny, tiny bites that are sustainable.

As you get comfortable with that one thing, add another teensy adjustment – that is hardly even a blip on your radar – and incorporate that into the fabric of your life.

I chose to start with a simple cooked breakfast cereal.

Longtime readers of foodtalk4you know my fascination with variations on the theme of ‘gruel’ – often adding everything I could think of (chia, ground flax seed, pumpkin seeds, etc.), and using what I called ‘sweet spices’ plus vanilla, to trick the palate into not needing much or any added sugar.

The recipe in O’Donnell’s book features just buckwheat – not a grain, but a seed – and is gluten-free. She flavors this with her trio of sweet spices: cinnamon, ginger, and cardamom, plus vanilla extract.

After the 1/2 cup of buckwheat, sweet spice mix, and 2 cups of water have cooked, 1 cup of fresh strawberries and 2 teaspoons of coconut oil are stirred in and allowed to rest for 5 minutes before serving – along with 1/4 cup toasted, unsweetened-shredded coconut sprinkled on top of the two bowls.

The next time we made this, we found adding a pinch of salt to be beneficial.

Holding power? Our bowl of her ‘berry buck-up cereal’ not only felt easy on the tummy, but sustained us all morning.

The rational behind this?

Seeking more ways to calm inflammation, which is the first domino to fall leading to ‘dis-ease.’

Whether you believe yourself to be sensitive to the effects of gluten or not, gluten is pro-inflammatory.

Take a tiny first step to start your day with less inflammation on board. You don’t have to jump into the deep end – just a few times a week. Start there.

Our next post will dive into a balancing staple food of Ayurveda, which is good anytime, anywhere, for anyone – and is perfectly neutral, adaptable, and an excellent resource for the change of seasons we are all experiencing right now.

In health –

Deidre

Making A Positive Entrance

What kind of an entrance are you making?

“To what? A meeting?”

Well, let’s start with your day. How are you entering this new day?

“Yawn, well after that first glass of water you told us about, it’s coffee for sure.”

Is your cell phone already in your hands? Are you immediately scrolling for the latest?

Or perhaps that mental reel is still playing in your mind, filling you with stress? You are supplying both sides of the conversation, and the message is full of labels – never good ones.
We can’t make that good first impression entrance to an event, a conversation, or our day if we are pulling from empty or poorly replenished reserves.

With the daily challenges that we are all facing with personal issues – let alone world issues – daily resets are no longer optional for me. How about you?

I will offer two points and a change in perspective for you today.

One. Find a happy place for daily resets.

It could be a park bench on your lunch break. Perhaps the top step going to your front door.

No cell phone.

Listen.

Be aware of what’s around you. Observe. Drop your gaze and mindfully breathe.

Read something that inspires you, directs you to a higher path, and that gives you peace.

Journal. The power of unfiltered brain dumps through journaling is not to be underestimated. Paper, pen and a few minutes of sharing with that page is utterly transformative – and cheap therapy.

Release your cares to the fresh air above, the universe, or your higher power. Our fretting mental reels never solve our problems. Just make yourself open to receiving the answers or guidance for your next steps.

Two. Assume a positive intent in others.

Reading a quote from business executive and former CEO of Pepsi, Indra Nooyi, recently blew me away with its simplicity. She speaks of approaching others:

“When you assume negative intent, you’re angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed.”

She goes on to explain how such an approach changes us – we become more intent on understanding the other person and are listening more carefully to them without being defensive at the onset. This sends a positive message to the other person that will often lead to more constructive, respectful interactions.

A change in perspective:

We’ve all seen those humbling, awe-inspiring images of Earth from space—our small, radiant planet suspended in darkness, wrapped in a thin, fragile atmosphere.

Do those views stir something in you—a sense of love, protectiveness, even responsibility? From that distance, “world peace” begins to feel less like an abstract ideal and more like a shared necessity. Perspective changes everything.

The minutia falls away – of no importance – as the big picture gives us pause.

Taking that same kind of perspective on our own lives can help quiet the worries and negative loops, making space to reset—with more compassion for others and for ourselves.

Find that happy place to regularly give yourself a reset and assume the positive in your daily interactions – now, that’s a good way to make a grand entrance!

Deidre

If you are looking for some resources to build up your resilience, get these FREE downloadable Resilience Practices HERE.

Originally designed to help family caregivers, these resources are universally applicable and can guide you through practices that will help you build your inner strength.

Rolling The Genetic Dice

Did you get Dad’s green eyes? How about Mom’s curly hair?

It’s always interesting to see how children turn out – who they will favor and what they will look like.

All lighthearted musings for most of us.

What if there was a 50/50 chance you could have inherited an incurable, always fatal disease from one of your parents?

What if that parent didn’t clearly show anything very out of the ordinary and didn’t even know they had that disease?

Would you even want to know if you inherited it?

That’s just a few of the endless questions family members of loved ones with Huntington’s Disease (HD) ask themselves.

With approximately 41,000 Americans symptomatic for HD and 200,000 at risk of having inherited the disease, there is a chance you might not know much about this disease.

Because of two of my new author friends, Sarah Foster and Lori Jones, my eyes have been opened to the poignant minefield of how this disease can unfold in individuals and in the families that surround them.

Reading this quote from Spared: A Memoir of Risk and Resolve by Lori Jones, you can begin to appreciate the weight of an HD diagnosis:

“Often called “the world’s cruelest disease,” according to the Huntington’s Disease Society of America, HDSA, Huntington’s disease is described as, “having ALS, Parkinson’s, and Alzheimer’s simultaneously.”

This article from HDSA contains part of Sarah Foster’s story:

Sarah Foster has written two books, Me and HD (2015) and This Is Me Smiling (2025). In both, she holds nothing back in recounting her decision to get tested for HD; how her diagnosis confirmed her mother’s own – untested – diagnosis, and the ever-changing landscape of living with HD.

When Sarah shared this article from the BBC:

I joined the jubilation!

To quote:

“An emotional research team became tearful as they described how data shows the disease was slowed by 75% in patients.

It means the decline you would normally expect in one year, would take four years after treatment – giving patients decades of ,”good quality life,” Prof. Sarah Tabrizi told BBC News.

The new treatment is a type of gene therapy given during 12 to 18 hours of delicate brain surgery.”

Clearly, with this lengthy brain surgery, treatment will be incredibly expensive – but there now is a treatment they can work with!

Yay, science!

Yay, to funding researchers!

If you know of someone with HD or not, both author’s stories deserve to be read and understood because their stories are a part of our collective humanity.

In health –

Deidre


Finally! The Book Signing!

Telling the Story!

But first – a message from Deidre and Sheree. We thought we could do it. Get enough posts written and ready to publish in advance of Sheree’s major surgery and my book release to carry us through the thick of things. There’s a saying about “best laid plans” …

What was not on the radar was a life-threatening surgical complication that necessitated yet another serious surgery and lengthy recovery for Sheree.

Thankfully, she seems to finally be on the mend. I can tell – Sheree’s practically begging me to send her some more posts to put in.

So, here we go – a short message of a recent event for me and a hint of what is to come for our foodtalk4you readers.

During a recent book signing event, I shared with a roomful of people from my neighborhood how I came to be a caregiver and then an author. Hint – the teacher in me could still teach others; but this time it is through books and the speaking presentations I am able to give. The messages I share come from having been a caregiver to a loved one.

It was tough selecting just the right passages from my latest book, Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions, that would both give an idea of what was inside the book and also tell a cohesive story.

I think I was able to paint the story correctly, and the audience seemed engaged and excited to implement the coping strategies and techniques they heard about, practiced together, and will finish reading about in their copies of my book.

After door prizes, I signed a lot of books!

That’s my story.

Now, what’s to come for you, my dear readers, will include several opportunities for you to learn about some new releases from authors you might not know.

I have reviewed so many new releases these past few months and several of them are superb. I will be sharing books containing stories of resilience, struggles and recovery, hope found in grief, and so much more!

There will be a Reader’s Corner post every so often, interspersed with our usual array of health tips, recipes, and some of the latest on how to bring your best self to each new day.

In health –

Deidre

A note from Sheree: I just wanted to thank everyone who thought about me, sent good wishes, and prayed for my recovery. I believe I am on the healing side of things, which has proven to be much longer than anyone expected. I appreciate every one! God bless …

The Birthday Garden

A cake with candles? Awesome!

And people who sing happy birthday? Fabulous!

But a garden? A birthday garden?

This was a new idea for me and was a gift from a trusted resource to mark my own recent birthday.

Our reflections of where we are now, and where we want to be in the future, often exist just in those few seconds it takes to catch a deep breath to blow out those candles on the cake.

The Birthday Garden is a tool developed by Julia Poernbacher, M.Sc., which is a metaphor she uses to reflect on the past year, celebrating personal growth, and to set intentions for the future.

Here’s a summary of the steps:

Look at your garden

With closed eyes, take a few deep breaths, and visualize your unique garden space:

What does it look like? Is it thriving or does it need care?

What’s growing? The flowers and plants represent your successes, joys, and potentials

How about weeds? They represent your challenges, habits, and things that no longer serve you.

Are there areas that need more attention or feel neglected?

Celebrate the harvest

Thefruits’ of your harvest are your successes, the moments of fulfillment through experiences and relationships of the last year.

Identify three significant successes or joyful experiences.

Reflect on what helped those successes bloom: what actions, people, or circumstances played a part?

Reflect on what those successes taught you and how they made you feel.

Pull the weeds

Maintenance is a part of every garden’s upkeep. Consider the habits, limiting beliefs, people, or challenges that may have held back your growth, no longer serving you.

Reflect on three things you are ready to release that have held back your growth. Perhaps, create a releasing ritual to help you let go of them. Consider writing them down on papers and holding each one close to your chest as you reflect on how it has affected you. Acknowledge its role in your life and how it made you feel. Then, with a deep breath in and out, set that paper down away from you.

Plant new seeds

Choose what you want to plant in your garden for the new year ahead.

What personal qualities do you want to develop, and what are the exact steps you will take to nurture them?

Reflect on three goals, qualities, or intentions for your garden, aligning your ‘seed’ with your action steps to keep it alive.

Tending your garden

As you create a plan for success, consider how you will maintain your garden through the coming year, asking yourself:

What goal am I growing? What habits will help me? How will I stay accountable? Who or what can support my efforts? How will I know that I have succeeded?

A vision statement

Write one that summarizes your over-arching goals and keep it somewhere you can see a reminder.

For example: “This year, I nurture a more-balanced approach to my efforts and interests. Being mindful that change takes time, I will celebrate the small victories all year long!”

In health –

Deidre

It’s 100% live! Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions is now available both in print and as an eBook! Pre-orders have been delivered today by Amazon! Get yours today HERE.

This has been a flower in my garden that has taken extra love, attention, and time for it to blossom! Please share this helpful resource with caregivers you know. The emotional tangle family caregivers experience is often the last topic to be addressed when, in fact, it should be top of the list!

If you have read it – Thank you! Please leave a helpful review on Amazon to help others discover a path to resilience in caregiving.

Greetings Healthy Deviant!

Strange title for this week’s post. Healthy Deviant.

But really, it’s why I got into the business of writing this blog and my first book.

I saw the need to be a healthy deviant from the evolving norms of health in my country, and anywhere we had influence – especially about food.

That’s just about everywhere!

As we look around, we can see different norms in the population than what our parents saw.

Quoting from Pilar Gerasimo’s book, The Healthy Deviant: The Rule Breaker’s Guide to Being Healthy in an Unhealthy World, the ‘norm’ today looks like this:

50% of U.S. adults are diagnosed with a chronic illness

68% are overweight or obese

70% are taking at least one prescription drug (for folks over 60, the average is FIVE)

80% are mentally or emotionally ‘not flourishing’

97.3% are not maintaining healthy habits (decent nutrition, adequate exercise, not smoking, healthy body composition)

It takes concerted effort to not become part of this norm.

The options that surround us hardly inspire health. Interspersed between endless commercials pedaling drugs with the promise to solve the ills of all the ‘normal’ chronic diseases are:

ads for double-dosed perfumed laundry products that will smell ‘so good’ longer,

ads for fast food dripping with cheese-like substances and deep fried accoutrements

and over-sized portions of restaurant fare that would clock in with calories exceeding what is needed in a day

What to do?

Resist!

Yes, we might join a picket line somewhere; but the resistance that we’re talking about happens with every choice we make.

Where is your food sourced?

Is it highly processed – coming from a box with many ingredients?

Are you making choices in restaurants which include fresh vegetables and salads?

Are you sharing your over-sized portion or taking half of your portion home with you?

Are you choosing unscented versions of your laundry products?

Are you moving regularly throughout the day?

Are you exercising?

Are you wearing sunscreen and shading your face with a hat?

The list goes on.

Quote of the day from Jiddu Krishnamurti:

“It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to that sick society.”

In healthy deviance –

Deidre

Remember to pick up your copy of Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions on Amazon! You can find it here. Both the eBook and print book are specially priced for this introductory period. Once you finish reading it, please leave a helpful review on Amazon to assist others in understanding how they can benefit. Thank you!