Category Archives: Habit Building

Humming Eases Your Vagus Nerve

A couple weeks ago, we were humming for hummus, when I shared a recipe and a technique that would yield the softest, fluffiest hummus ever.

Today, we are going to hum to de-stress!

BACKGROUND INFORMATION

But first, we will return to the classroom to review a very important nerve.

Behold, cranial nerve number ten, the vagus nerve. It’s also known as the “great wandering nerve” because it leaves the cranium and connects to organs throughout the body. The vagus nerve helps regulate essential functions like heart rate, breathing, and digestion.

By controlling those processes, the vagus nerve contributes to the body’s “rest and digest” response – helping to calm the body after stress, lower heart rate, improve digestion, and keep the body in balance.

But, what’s your point about that vagus nerve, you ask? Good question!

What if you could stimulate the vagus nerve to increase its calming effects?

We know yoga and mindfulness meditation help to calm the body as does breath work such as box breathing.

Today, we are adding humming to breath work because it increases the calming, de-stressing effects on the vagus nerve.

When we breathe through our noses, we produce nitric oxide in our nasal cavities. Nitric oxide (NO) is a colorless gas that relaxes the inner muscles of the blood vessels. This relaxation causes the blood vessels to widen and increases circulation.

This humming breath work I describe causes an increase in the release of nitric oxide, which in turn, increases the calming effects it has on the total body.

Nitric oxide also helps your body keep inflammation in balance. Under normal conditions, it supports healthy circulation and can calm inflammation; but when you’re fighting an infection, your immune cells make extra nitric oxide to help kill off bacteria, viruses, fungi, and parasites.

TECHNIQUE

A simple explanation for this humming technique is found HERE and simply involves inhaling through the nose and slowly exhaling by making a humming sound with closed lips.

You will notice a mild vibration happening in the nasal cavity. Interestingly, you can modulate the pitch of your humming to move the vibration more to the nasal cavity.

That’s it. Inhale through the nose and exhale as a hum – nice and easy, using all your breath.

It’s an excellent opportunity to practice “belly breathing” by feeling your belly fill and push out as you inhale, and gradually “deflate” as you expel your breath in a hum.

Gargling warm water is another technique that can contribute to the nasal vibrations that enhance nitric oxide release.

Check it out HERE.

In the world of yoga, this technique is called Bhramari pranayama or “humming bee breath” and is beautifully demonstrated in the following video.


People have shared that regular vagus nerve stimulation through humming has been very successful in their ability to control chronic anxiety. Whatever your need, try some regular humming to get your day started off on a calmer note.

You know, there are no extra hours in the day to add a few minutes – even if it’s something good for me – but as a student of “habit stacking,” I now have a calming activity to do while I brew coffee each morning!

I have it on good authority that humming along with your toddlers as they play cars/trucks/tractors with their motor sounds going, can count for your regular daily humming sessions!

Humming along in health – Deidre


Rescued by Chia Seeds

Well, I didn’t intend to ignore my obligations, but that’s what I almost did.

Our trusty editor, Sheree, just sent a subtle message, “Hey … got a post for me?”

In other words, “Hey, the Tuesday post is going out, uh … tomorrow … we don’t have anything for our readers!”

Gulp!

After completing the Caregiver Summit last week I had been preparing for since early spring, we celebrated the positive reception of my message, packed our bags, and headed out the next day for a long-awaited trip to Disney World!

The cold snap that is affecting the mid-Atlantic on up north, is also affecting the southern Atlantic states. The low in Kissimmee, Florida, where we are staying is 36 F tonight – and the high tomorrow is slated to be 59 F.

We abandoned the idea of seeing the fireworks-light show-water fountain display at Epcot again tonight because we didn’t bring parkas. To top that off, Sheree is making snow men in West Virginia!

Since our accommodations have a full kitchen, I knew we would be taking many of our meals in whenever we were not at Disney World.

How do you approach vacation cooking and meal prep?

Our first stop coming into Kissimmee was to go to the grocery store.

To compliment the assorted nuts, peanut butter, crackers, chia seeds, fresh berries (blueberry, black berry, and raspberry), and apples, we picked up almond milk, two bottles of protein-boosted smoothies, coffee, gluten free cereals, eggs, Greek yogurt, gouda, sliced ham, sour dough bread, mustard, butter, hummus, and guacamole.

Travel and eating out can create havoc for the “smooth functioning of the intestines.”

To ward against getting “backed up” we regularly consume chia seed pudding. Recipes vary, but this is what I am currently doing:

Chia Seed Pudding – per individual serving

In a small bowl or a small glass (that will hold about 10 ounces) stir together:

2-3 tablespoons chia seeds

1/3 – 1/2 cup flavored smoothie (these can contain added sugar, so I don’t use a lot)

1/3 – 1/2 cup almond milk

2 – 3 Tablespoons of Greek yogurt (can be fruit flavored to blend in with the flavor of smoothie you use)

A handful of fresh fruit that compliments the other flavors.

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Depending upon the amount of chia seeds and fluid used – and if you refrigerate this overnight – this “pudding” can thicken enough to need a spoon or can be thin enough to drink.

Along with proper daily hydration, and eating whole food with lots of fiber, chia pudding can be our best friend – especially when traveling.

In health –

Deidre and Remi

I sure hope we get to see Remi’s Ratatouille Show in Disney this week! They were having technical difficulties today.

Camino

Traditionally, a Camino journey refers to the Camino de Santiago, The Way of St. James, which is a Christian pilgrimage to the Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela in Spain, where the remains of the Apostle James are said to rest.

Pilgrams walked this route as an act of faith, repentance, and devotion as they sought forgiveness, spiritual renewal, or a closeness to God.

Today, the spiritual roots of taking this Camino have evolved into a profound, personal experience that draws people from all faiths, perspectives, and walks of life.

The actual Camino in Spain is a walk of hundreds of miles, testing physical strength, determination, and fortitude. Yet, the steady rhythm of walking becomes meditative, allowing travelers a chance to listen to their inner voice.

Also, the Camino is a shared experience as fellow pilgrims from around the world connect with conversation, kindness, and the shared effort – creating a sense of community amid simplicity, generosity, and mutual care.

Little did I know that our family’s week-long visit to Tucson, Arizona, and specifically, the Arizona-Sonora Desert Museum, would become our Camino experience.

From the moment we arrived at the hotel campus, we had started our journey. Every day, we absorbed this new terrain, climate, flora, and fauna.

We learned how to correctly pronounce “Saguaro” – the remarkable sentinels of the desert landscape. Hint: replace the “gu” with a “w” to make: “sa – war- o.”

This incredible cactus reminded us of nature’s time frame – so different from our frantic, connected world. You can appreciate this landscape more deeply by viewing this growth chart for the Saguaro:

Then, we capped off our week with a visit to the Arizona-Sonora Desert Museum. Just driving through the mountains on narrow winding roads, sharing the way with cyclists and motorcyclists, provided a much slower pace deserving of our awe and wonder.

The whole outdoors seemed to span space and time, reminding us of the broader truths we each were seeking.

Getting out of the car at the museum, we experienced the rhythm of our steps trough vistas of dessert beauty.

Our communal experience as a family appreciating the desert animals – a Puma napping; two very large, speckled squirrels; black bear; prairie dogs, and others – along with a landscape that cannot be contained by words or pictures – was so personally moving.

On the path through the winding roads, we experienced yet another view of the mountains on our return trip back to our hotel.

Each new curve around the mountains seemed to take our breath away.

Then it happened.

As we approached one particular mountain view, we were all silent. Tears started to form in my eyes. One of us started to sniff.

Still now, I can cry just recalling the experience.

We were on our own Camino.

The intimate messages of this journey are still being absorbed. So much had transpired that week for our family – so much to savor, ponder, and cherish.

I will be forever changed.

Have you had a Camino experience?

In health – Deidre


A Season Of Rest

I was putting the finishing touches on a presentation I will be delivering at the Caregiver Summit on November 6th when I took to heart my own words: we are living in a season of our lives – it’s not forever – it’s a season.

Seasons come and go – we do not become the season – we go through the seasons.

Going full speed ahead; facing delays; healing; giving; receiving … are some of the seasons we experience.

I feel at my best when I am doing and creating, but the energy for those activities comes from cycles of rest and renewal.

Sure, we are hopefully getting rest each night, but sometimes … sometimes we need more than a few hours.

Sometimes, we need to embrace a season of rest.

While my mind has been saying, “but I want to …” – my body and spirit are saying, “Whoa! Slow down!”

I’ve just felt a little ‘off’ lately.

There have been half-day holidays from productivity. There have been whole days of very limited accomplishments when only major ‘fires’ are being put out.

You know what? That’s okay.

While my get-up-and-go has not vanished by any means, it hasn’t been lasting as long.

Today, I just woke up to the truth. Rather than feeling ‘less-than,’ I am feeling ‘enough.’

That fragrant cup of tea needs to be savored – the Asian persimmon from the corner fruit stand is slowly enjoyed and appreciated for its subtle flavor.

The warmth of the sun on my back is enjoyed longer as I read yet another chapter of a good book.

Who am I to turn away from the natural ebb and flow?

It may be your season to rest for a spell, also.

Let the ordinary become a source of building up your inner strength:

As you hydrate with water, feel its life-giving energy filling you.

As you linger over a cup of herbal tea, imagine its steam taking your concerns away.

Gently stretch each morning to open pathways that allow the natural flow of inner cleansing and nourishment.

Pause to embrace a sense of gratitude throughout the day. Open you eyes to the blessings that surround you, even on challenging days.

Reward your body with simple, nourishing, and colorful whole foods. Let go of the processed food with labels.

Am I sounding Zen? Perhaps … why not?

As the seasons surround us in a purposeful change, so too can we embrace our seasons with acceptance – so its purpose may be fulfilled.

Writing this is one of just a few accomplishments for me today – and that is enough!

Time to catch the sunset!


In health –

Deidre

Honesty

Everything I write is honest, from the heart, and from a mind seeking truth in all things.

So, being honest with myself and taking that truth to you, I am finding another teaching/sharing moment! Always a win!

I am putting into action more of what I preach – namely, knowing when it’s time to step back, take a breath, and prioritize my energies, and those of Sheree.

With our FoodTalk4You editor, Sheree preparing for surgery in a couple of days, (as I write this in mid-August), and with me involved with the book launch, preparing for a book signing later in September, and practicing for the Caregiver Summit presentation for November – I’m spinning all the plates I want.

Therefore, this is a short post containing a reminder to us all that it’s okay to pause, recharge, and concentrate in a better way on fewer things.

Next week, we hope to be back up to speed.

Is it time for you to reassess where your energies are going? How can you make the adjustments to give yourself space?

In health – hopefully – working and living smarter –

Deidre – and Sheree (who will be rehabbing in September)

The Birthday Garden

A cake with candles? Awesome!

And people who sing happy birthday? Fabulous!

But a garden? A birthday garden?

This was a new idea for me and was a gift from a trusted resource to mark my own recent birthday.

Our reflections of where we are now, and where we want to be in the future, often exist just in those few seconds it takes to catch a deep breath to blow out those candles on the cake.

The Birthday Garden is a tool developed by Julia Poernbacher, M.Sc., which is a metaphor she uses to reflect on the past year, celebrating personal growth, and to set intentions for the future.

Here’s a summary of the steps:

Look at your garden

With closed eyes, take a few deep breaths, and visualize your unique garden space:

What does it look like? Is it thriving or does it need care?

What’s growing? The flowers and plants represent your successes, joys, and potentials

How about weeds? They represent your challenges, habits, and things that no longer serve you.

Are there areas that need more attention or feel neglected?

Celebrate the harvest

Thefruits’ of your harvest are your successes, the moments of fulfillment through experiences and relationships of the last year.

Identify three significant successes or joyful experiences.

Reflect on what helped those successes bloom: what actions, people, or circumstances played a part?

Reflect on what those successes taught you and how they made you feel.

Pull the weeds

Maintenance is a part of every garden’s upkeep. Consider the habits, limiting beliefs, people, or challenges that may have held back your growth, no longer serving you.

Reflect on three things you are ready to release that have held back your growth. Perhaps, create a releasing ritual to help you let go of them. Consider writing them down on papers and holding each one close to your chest as you reflect on how it has affected you. Acknowledge its role in your life and how it made you feel. Then, with a deep breath in and out, set that paper down away from you.

Plant new seeds

Choose what you want to plant in your garden for the new year ahead.

What personal qualities do you want to develop, and what are the exact steps you will take to nurture them?

Reflect on three goals, qualities, or intentions for your garden, aligning your ‘seed’ with your action steps to keep it alive.

Tending your garden

As you create a plan for success, consider how you will maintain your garden through the coming year, asking yourself:

What goal am I growing? What habits will help me? How will I stay accountable? Who or what can support my efforts? How will I know that I have succeeded?

A vision statement

Write one that summarizes your over-arching goals and keep it somewhere you can see a reminder.

For example: “This year, I nurture a more-balanced approach to my efforts and interests. Being mindful that change takes time, I will celebrate the small victories all year long!”

In health –

Deidre

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Greetings Healthy Deviant!

Strange title for this week’s post. Healthy Deviant.

But really, it’s why I got into the business of writing this blog and my first book.

I saw the need to be a healthy deviant from the evolving norms of health in my country, and anywhere we had influence – especially about food.

That’s just about everywhere!

As we look around, we can see different norms in the population than what our parents saw.

Quoting from Pilar Gerasimo’s book, The Healthy Deviant: The Rule Breaker’s Guide to Being Healthy in an Unhealthy World, the ‘norm’ today looks like this:

50% of U.S. adults are diagnosed with a chronic illness

68% are overweight or obese

70% are taking at least one prescription drug (for folks over 60, the average is FIVE)

80% are mentally or emotionally ‘not flourishing’

97.3% are not maintaining healthy habits (decent nutrition, adequate exercise, not smoking, healthy body composition)

It takes concerted effort to not become part of this norm.

The options that surround us hardly inspire health. Interspersed between endless commercials pedaling drugs with the promise to solve the ills of all the ‘normal’ chronic diseases are:

ads for double-dosed perfumed laundry products that will smell ‘so good’ longer,

ads for fast food dripping with cheese-like substances and deep fried accoutrements

and over-sized portions of restaurant fare that would clock in with calories exceeding what is needed in a day

What to do?

Resist!

Yes, we might join a picket line somewhere; but the resistance that we’re talking about happens with every choice we make.

Where is your food sourced?

Is it highly processed – coming from a box with many ingredients?

Are you making choices in restaurants which include fresh vegetables and salads?

Are you sharing your over-sized portion or taking half of your portion home with you?

Are you choosing unscented versions of your laundry products?

Are you moving regularly throughout the day?

Are you exercising?

Are you wearing sunscreen and shading your face with a hat?

The list goes on.

Quote of the day from Jiddu Krishnamurti:

“It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to that sick society.”

In healthy deviance –

Deidre

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Oh, And One More Thing …

This One Thing

I just learned how to increase my endurance by 240X!

No potions. No app to install. No purchases necessary.

Intrigued?

On just two pages of a new book I’m reading about techniques used to develop your best self, I felt like I had been given the golden key that unlocks the treasure chest of all knowledge.

It starts with rats. I know – rats …

The author, while opposed to many aspects of animal testing, related the findings of an old study.

Back in the 1950’s, a Harvard-trained researcher named Curt Richter, conducted some studies through Johns Hopkins.

He wanted to see how long rats could swim under two different conditions.

In the first one, he let rats swim as long as they could before they drowned. They lasted fifteen minutes.

I know – lab studies …

In the second one, rats were allowed to swim up to the point where they looked like they were about to give up – around their threshold of fifteen minutes. At that point, they were removed from the water, toweled off, and allowed to briefly rest before they were returned to the water.

How long do you think they were able to swim?

Maybe just a few minutes? Another fifteen?

Shockingly, they swam for sixty – yes, 60 HOURS!

Two hundred and forty times longer!

What?

What had changed for those rats?

The researcher concluded that they had experienced one simple thing: HOPE.

They had experienced the possibility of a better future. They ‘knew’ there was a chance of that better future, and they kept swimming and swimming towards it.

How’s your HOPE meter doing these days?

Hope is believing our future will be better than our present. Take that away, and we succumb like the poor rats in group one. Hopeless.

Whatever the muck we may be mired in, if we can sustain our HOPE, then our endurance is strengthened.

How do we create or find hope for a better future?

We need to SEE a better future and have GOALS that inspire us.

We need to believe that WE CAN take the steps needed to make our goals happen.

We need to have a PLAN to move forward with those steps – and be flexible enough to modify our plans to include different approaches that will ensure success.

Bringing your best self to each day’s starting line means you are committed to a brighter, better future.

You are going to show up!

With HOPE!

For success!

In health –

Deidre

NEXT Tuesday, August 19th, will mark the 100% full launch of Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions!

Yippee! Those of you who have pre-ordered, the eBook version will be ready to read that day! There will be lots of book promotional sites advertising the eBook on sale at $0.99.

In the meantime, the paperback is currently also at a discounted introductory price, so it’s a great time to pick one up for yourself or someone else who could use a helping hand with their caregiving emotions.

The honest, helpful reviews of readers are pure gold to authors, and I thank each of you who have chosen to take a minute to do that. Just a sentence or two can make a big difference. Thanks!

Promises Kept

Do you keep your promises?

I remember when, as kids, we would ‘pinky swear!’

Boy, that was the real deal!

As we grew older, we learned our word was our bond.

It’s a beautiful thing.

Promises kept to others.

But, what about making promises to yourself?

Do you hold them to the same standards? Or do you think you’re not worth it?

“Oh, I said I wasn’t going to eat that whole big serving next time we came to this restaurant, and look … oops!”

“I said I was going to exercise today and look … oops.”

These and similar statements are probably followed with negative self-talk – which chips away at our self-esteem.

I was at a workshop recently having to do with bringing our best selves to greet life each day.

One participant said, one area she wanted to work on, was in bringing her best self to herself.

She realized – while she was keeping promises to others, she was not keeping promises she made to herself.

We’ve all had an ah-ha moment with that one.

This is a gentle nudge to remind all of us that if we want to do well – bringing our best selves into each day – then we also need to bring our best selves to ourselves.

Now, on to tidbits –

Are we still making sure we are moving around each day?

At the start of our longevity series, I shared some statistics about how regular daily movement – coupled with exercise – is the number one thing leading the way to a healthier, longer life – even if you have ‘good genes.’

A new meta-analysis of 85 studies has clarified just how critical physical activity can be. I quote from Chris Kresser: “Adults who were consistently active, had up to 40% lower risk of dying from any cause, and a 30-40% reduction in cardiovascular mortality. Even better, starting exercise later in life still

provided significant benefits—a 20-25% lower risk of death compared to those who remained sedentary.”

He concludes, “From a Functional Medicine perspective, this supports movement as foundational to healthspan, not just lifespan. And while structured workouts help, what seems to matter most is consistency and enjoyment. Activities you love and can sustain—especially those done outdoors with others—are the most likely to stick.”

Computer time has ramped up for me during this early book launch. Toolkit for Caregiver Emotions is the topic of many an email and post on social media platforms!

So, my partner and I are inspiring each other as we do our online exercise routines each day as a blessed break from sitting in front of the screen. And, when the temps and 95% humidity decrease, we take walks!

It’s all because I promised I would. Pinky swear!

In health – Deidre

Feeling Hot, Hot, Hot!

It’s too darn hot!

Ninety-five percent humidity can take its toll!

It is summertime here in the Northern Hemisphere, and finding cooler ingredients and cooking methods is a priority.

Got meat? Grill it outside, please – no added heat in the kitchen!

For the rest of the meal? I keep turning to salads.

Cool, crisp, full of veggies salads.

No label reading is needed for these whole foods.

Until …

Maybe we think using bottled dressing would be an okay shortcut?

Truth be told – I have succumbed to the sirens of bottled dressing from time to time – even the pricey ‘good ones’ touting no chemicals – but they break all the rules for homemade goodness and freshness.

I know folks who always splash on just enough oil, balsamic vinegar, salt, and pepper to do the job.

That sort of works for me in the winter, but …

Lately, I’ve been into whole meal salads featuring high protein, gluten-free pastas!

First, we need some flavorful salad dressing to pull it all together!

So, grab a small mixing bowl and add as many of these ingredients as possible – I didn’t have the shallot, or enough lemon juice and it turned out fine!

Dressing

½ cup extra virgin olive oil

¼ white wine or champagne vinegar

2 Tablespoons lemon juice

2 teaspoons Dijon mustard

1 Tablespoon fig preserves (honey will do nicely)

1 small shallot finely chopped

2 cloves garlic, finely chopped

½ cup mixed fresh herbs: dill, oregano, basil

Salt and pepper to taste

A sprinkle of chili flakes, if desired

Whisk the ingredients well and set aside.

Then, cook 1 lb. or 1 box of salad pasta of choice to al dente. I like using chickpea or red lentil pasta for the protein boost, which makes this salad a full meal.

Once cooked to al dente, drain the pasta and toss with the dressing so all those yummy flavors can coat each piece!

Assemble a montage of ingredients in an over-sized salad bowl such as:

Two heads of Romaine lettuce, sliced

½ of a head of Radicchio, sliced

A sampling of nitrate-free salami, pepperoni – I use turkey based when available – sliced

1-2 cups of cherry tomatoes, halved

A variety of olives, torn or sliced

Bell pepper, chopped

2-4 Tablespoons of sliced pepperoncini

A cup or more of fresh basil leaves, torn

A cup of mozzarella cheese balls – these may be halved or quartered if they are not mini size

A cup of provolone cheese, cubed

Shaved Parmesan to taste

As a concept recipe, I never always have all the ingredients, so types and quantities of ingredients will vary.

Once the salad is assembled and tossed, add the pasta with its dressing and toss thoroughly.

Served fresh with the pasta still warm, or cold from the refrigerator, this is a satisfying meal!

If we have some grilled meat, I will thinly slice the hot meat and arrange the slices on top of each serving of salad.

Bring on the iced sangria!

In health –

Deidre

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