Wait! This is the last post for 2023! How did that happen?

One second at a time – 86,400 of them each day.

Or maybe it’s easier to wrap our brains around 1440 – that’s the number of minutes in each day.

I have a yellow sticky note on the wall of my office with that number on it – 1440.

Whether we burn those minutes up scrolling through social media for hours, applying every brain cell to help launch a rocket into space, or finding a cure for cancer – we must all account for those 1440 minutes.

Are we any better for having lived those minutes? Is anyone else better?

As we wrap up this holiday season which celebrates love, life, light, hope, peace, and home – my wish for us all is threefold:

1. –That we may be evermore mindful of having a grateful heart. May our blessings jar be filled to the brim by the end of the year. As we review each blessing we have noted, and as we pause to reflect and relive that positive experience, may we remember countless more. I am reminded that those who practice gratitude experience a more positive life. Sure, there are forces of good and bad all around us, but we need to be more open to seeing and being that force of good.

2. –That we may continue learning and changing. I’m talking about learning and not information gathering. Learning implies a resulting change of behavior. If my actions remain unchanged, I am simply aware of trivia. May we be vigilant in examining various viewpoints with open minds and hold ideas and people up to the Four-Way Test used by the Rotary:

a. — Is it the TRUTH?

b. — Is it FAIR to all concerned?

c. — Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?

d. — Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

3. –That we may continue to seek balance in every aspect of our lives. Balance produces harmony, and the vibrations of harmony will reverberate throughout our lives and move into the world around us.

Our future posts will include an exploration of alkaline water; a podcast resource for family caregivers; more made-from-scratch recipes, and lots more.

Blessings to one and all for a safe and healthy New Year.

In health –

Deidre and Sheree

Over the years, readers of foodtalk4you have been encouraged to embrace healthy choices, if made on a regular basis, would result in a better inner balance; a health status more naturally obtained; and nourishment from foods that are anti-inflammatory.

All well and good.

Oh, and health checks. We’ve covered those, too.

Have you been seeing the dentist every six months for a cleaning and checkup? Yes.

How about that yearly mammogram for women? Done.

Update with your primary care physician every year? You bet.

Annual prostate screening exam, PSA, screening for men? Good.

Eye-exam every year? Absolutely. I need my sight.

I still see the optometrist from my old town every year; he has known me for thirty years, and I would never skip a yearly appointment with him because that’s where I get my contacts. I count the days for that annual visit so my lenses can get updated.

Have you ever been to a dermatologist for a full body check of your skin? Yes?

How long has it been since your last exam? Well…

That’s where I came up short.

Regular as clockwork, I had went to see my dermatologist.

That is, until I moved.

Then I discovered getting established with new care providers was such a chore, I made plans to keep my dermatologist as well – just schedule my yearly checkups on the same day as my eye doctor.

Two important checkups on one day trip. Easy peesy.

Until one of them had to reschedule, and I could no longer piggyback appointments.

Eyes demanded attention. Skin … not so much. Skin needs an advocate, and I fell down on that job.

Several friends in my new community were already sporting small bandages here and there after they got established with their new dermatologists. Small, being the operant word here.

Then, a friend came back from having a couple skin biopsies done – only to learn a few days later – they were both melanomas.

Good grief.

That did it. Getting established with a new dermatologist suddenly moved to the top of my list. I called the office nearest me to schedule an appointment as a new patient. Well, the next available appointment was two months out and I had no choice but to wait.

Finally, at my appointment, the tiniest biopsy I’ve ever had was taken from my forehead. It came back as basal cell carcinoma.

It would be my fourth basal cell, and I wasn’t overly concerned, especially because of the biopsy’s size.

While I might have developed a basal cell growth on my forehead anyway, the adage is now ringing very loudly in my head: “A stitch in time, saves nine.”

If I had not delayed, then maybe that tiny basal cell would not have developed so stealthily along a nerve, enabling it to grow and travel more easily.

Long story short, there’s a 6.5 cm long incision, still covered up by Steri-strips and brown tape, running vertically up and down the middle of my forehead.

Geez.

Thank heavens for Mohs surgical technique, developed in 1938 by a surgeon, Dr. Frederic E. Mohs, which allowed the doctor to microscopically remove as little as possible; create slides of the tissue taken; analyze for clear boarders and call me back to take another small slice – which he did four additional times, before closing the wound up.

Seven hours later, my body image more than slightly shaken, and a giant pressure bandage on my forehead, I am driven home.

Sometimes we need reminders. I had never been one to skip regular checkups, but I allowed myself to become that person.

Yes, I use sunscreen and hats. Yes, I make countless decisions each day to enhance my total body health; but none of that takes away the need for regular checkups.

No skipping!

Stop what you are doing and make calls right now for your annual medical checks.

Just do it!!

In health –

Deidre

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Like a skilled acrobatics artist walking a tightrope over the heights, we are called to maintain balance in every aspect of our lives.

Work, play, learning, doing, time outdoors, time indoors, family, friends, cooking, cleaning, gardening, focus on goals, focus on being free from any agendas, concentrating on self, doing things for others, etc.

I could type examples forever.

How do you maintain a sense of balance?

With the continual evolving nature of our lives I mentioned last week, the balance we achieve one day may not fit the next one.

The season of festivals and holidays is upon us, and I noticed I had been spending more time this year writing; and I had become transfixed on getting Toolkit for Caregivers freshened up and relaunched to the exclusion of nurturing my other passions, pastimes, and time devoted to friendships.

Imbalance seldom works over the long haul.

Sure, we can, figuratively, stand on our heads briefly, but for an extended period? Not so much.

My sense of imbalance was causing an inner pinch that became uncomfortable and demanded adjusting.

So, here I am, covered in glittery holiday ornament fallout, and having a ball. I am doing advanced prep-work for our neighborhood’s Second Annual Holiday Home Tour, and my house is on the tour!

Will I meet my self-imposed publishing deadline? Not sure.

Am I going to punctuate my days with more time doing the crafty things that provide creative release and joy? You bet.

Will there be more time each week with friends? Absolutely.

Is writing and making final edits being abandoned? Not at all. I am just allowing myself to move through my days on a longer leash – and it feels good.

May I encourage everyone to go ahead and rebalance your inner-self, which could be uncomfortable with the status quo?

That rebalance will work for as long as it’s meant to work.

May we all mindfully listen to what our spirits are telling us and respond accordingly.

In health and holiday glitter –

Deidre

There are letters to the editor. Kids write letters to Santa. We sometimes write letters to our elected officials. We anticipate letters of acceptance. We would like to forget those dreaded Dear John letters.

Much of this correspondence has been translated to texts, tweets, and emails — so much so, when we see a real written note or letter in our mailbox, we are thrilled.

Unless your name is John.

What if we were to pull out a piece of paper, and pen a letter to our younger selves?

Surely, we have gained wisdom, perspective, and experience enough to counsel our younger selves at a time when a comforting word of encouragement would have done us a world of good.

What would our advice look like?

You are enough.

Be easier on yourself.

Look up and breathe.

Relax.

You are strong enough, smart enough, and kind enough to make a difference.

This world needs you.

You are discovering wonderful things about yourself, and that will never stop.

For as long as you live, you will build upon your strengths and abilities.

When things get rough, remember who you are.

Do good.

Search for the easiest, small task you can do to move closer to your goals, and then keep doing that every single day.

Always fill your mind with gratitude for the blessings in your life, both great and small.

Of course, our younger selves cannot read that note just written, full of encouragement and hope. Would we have benefitted from such a note?

I think so.

Therefore, what could we write about to our present selves? We still have cares and concerns; projects can overwhelm; relationships hit snags; and we can still lose our way sometimes.

The same way we might have regarded that unsure little child in our first letter, let’s regard ourselves today, with an equal measure of love, patience, and understanding.

Like that child, we are breaking new ground every day. We’ve never been this old before. Everything is new.

The world is constantly changing, our bodies are changing, there are new ways of doing things, and we still need words of encouragement.

As we figuratively write that letter to ourselves, or as we visualize sitting on a park bench with ourselves, may our counsel be helpful.

May we realize that those around us need our uplifting words of hope and inspiration as well.

In practicing kindness to ourselves first, we can more easily be kind to others.

In peace and health –

Deidre