Are you trapped in a cycle of plotting, planning, wishing, and dreaming but never doing? If you could just actually get started, things would be great. But you never take that first step. We look for a push, a shove, someone to take our hand…or better yet, lift us up and carry us through so we don’t actually have to do it.
Seems others are busy doing their own things; so, we continue to plot, plan, wish, and dream. Sometimes we may even be worried about the mound of unaccomplished tasks before us. How to start ticking off those boxes so we can really get going?
I want to share five points about getting started that have worked for me and others:
- Don’t think about it – just do it. This mantra got me through high school and college and relates to finishing reports, speeches, reading texts, and doing homework – not as an encouragement to do stupid stuff. Long before there was a Nike, I practiced and shared this phrase to get myself and others through mountains of tasks.
Don’t think about the five things you need to get done in the next little bit, just reach out and grab one and do it. Then grab the next one.
Over-thinking, over-planning, over-ruminating gets nothing done – it only delays the start.
Don’t think about it – just do it.
- Start a change with small tweaks. If you think about it, just about everything we do is a habit. Habits require little to no thinking. Our brain has limited band width and loves to run on autopilot – it likes to save real thinking for important things.
When I want to change an old habit or start a new one, I’ll begin by breaking down that habit into such a small component – what I call a tweak – that not doing it would be silly. If I backslide from doing ab exercises, I’ll start by doing just thirty seconds of full planks (elbow to toes) followed by thirty seconds of half planks (elbow to knees).
Now, who doesn’t have one minute for exercise? Then, I note on my calendar this accomplishment. Not so hard. By the end of the week, I’m doing a minute of full planks followed by a full minute of half planks. My goal is to work back up to two-minute planks both ways.
Trying to eat better? Conquer one meal at a time. Make sure to note your change on a calendar. Those check marks, stars, or notations look mighty good as they add up. Then you can move on to add another meal.
Instead of going cold turkey on cutting out sweet tea or sodas, simply cut down by bits. Share all cans of sodas with a still addicted friend, or switch to smaller cans. Sweet tea can be cut by ever-increasing amounts of unsweet tea. Then you can experiment with drinking more water instead of tea or soda.
- Five-hundred-pound man. A Facebook video popped up while I was scrolling through the other night that I had seen before, but something compelled me to watch it again with new eyes. Perhaps you have seen it, too. This young man, maybe in his thirties, weighed over 500 pounds. His human form was all but obliterated by the extra weight.
His doctor pretty much said lose the weight or die. Because he was engaged to a normal-sized woman who loved the man inside of him, he decided he needed to reveal that man to himself and the world.
Long story short, he started by doing something simple. He videoed himself throwing out all the junk food in his house. Then he went to the grocery store with a new kind of shopping list. Then he went to the gym. One step at a time. He did what he could that day.
Thinking about the long haul for a 500+ pound man would have crushed any hope of getting the job done. Don’t think about it; just do it. Today. Then tomorrow when it becomes today.
At the end of his story, he weighed 300 pounds less and was having skin reduction surgery. He was alive, fit, and loving his active life. Both he and his new wife could fit into one leg of his former pants.
What a wonderful story about starting, and then starting again the next day, and the day after that!
- Help yourself. Those were the words that popped into my depressed and numb mind as I lay on the bed, unable to get up. Help yourself. Learning to live with grief was hard. I knew it was going to be hard. Maybe I’d just stay there the rest of the afternoon…
Help yourself.
Well, I realized that there was no one else who was going to help me. It boils down to me. Get my body up. Move. Go somewhere there are other people. Do it. Now. Don’t think about it – just do it. Help yourself.
Closely resembling an emotionless robot – I got up, slipped on some shoes, and drove to the riverside park.
Fresh breeze. Pretty clouds. Children playing. Folks walking their dogs. Life.
Life was around me and I had to participate. My loved one was in heaven, but I was here. I was called to actively live here and now – the choice was mine. Help myself by being a part of the life around me. So I did.
- Dominoes. Getting started and maintaining forward motion can be almost self-perpetuating. Once you tip over that first domino, that accomplishment will help tip over the next. That’s why I like putting those notations on my calendar, so I can see that momentum.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Enjoy that exhilarating feeling as you do more exercise, eliminate toxic foods, complete those tasks, write the next chapter of your book, start that business, or take that new class.
You are doing this! You have started and you are moving forward.
Congratulations!
So, what are you desiring to start? Find the smallest part of it, don’t think about it anymore, and just do it! Pat yourself on the back. Put a star on your calendar and do it again tomorrow.
In health and accomplishment-
Deidre
tempting. A great gift idea, too. Haven’t taken that swab plunge yet, but sometimes a very Nordic, “Yah,” periodically comes out of my mouth that I wonder, “where did that come from?”
what I mean: some ‘random’ thing that leads to something else that leads to something else? The dominoes keep tipping over in a beautiful opening of blessings?
One evening, we dined with an Amish family who served traditional Amish fare supplied by a local restaurant and who opened up for an honest and frank question and answer period. As a personal thank you gift, I gave her a signed copy of my book, Toolkit for Wellness, as a gesture of sharing, in kind, a bit of myself.
when her husband had died in 2010, but that she waited two years to read it. She said that reading the book, When God Winks at You, changed her life.
accident that you just picked up When God Winks. In fact, you may have suspected all along that there is more to coincidence than meets the eye. These seemingly random events are actually sign posts that can help you successfully navigate your career, relationships, and interests. By recognizing the God winks our Creator sometimes places in our paths, we can understand—and embrace—the journey God has laid out for us.
Speaking of book-giving at Christmas – where did that tradition come from? I have always loved giving and getting books for Christmas. Yah?
items readily available to give as gifts at Christmas. Hence, a strong tradition of book ownership, reading, and Christmas gift preferences.
While change is one of the few constants in this world, it’s the one we tend to like the least. The older we get, the tighter we cling to the old ways and resist anything new.
I have to say that the simple wisdom found in this quick read of Out of the Maze has helped me in my own transitions of late. It’s a great book to pull off the shelf at the start of each New Year as we all move forward with our lives and pause to reflect on our progress or to consider if we are ‘stuck’ in a maze.
targeted to be ‘food’ for your mind, body, and spirit.
Thanksgiving? Leftovers may be my favorite part of the holiday, so it seems appropriate to have savored my Cranberry Secret Sauce over some peanut butter on gluten free toast for breakfast today.
Check last week’s post to keep that tasty and versatile jewel of redness around for the whole holiday season.
bacterial hand soap.
Finally, Bath and Body Works and other purveyors of “soap-ness,” have returned to offering most of their wares in the non-antibacterial form. Excellent!
squirt-top container, I discovered regular liquid is too thick to go through the apparatus. What to do? I tried diluting the liquid – one-part soap to 2-3 parts water – guess what? Foaming soap! Think of all the water I had been buying all those years.
No matter what soap we use, the trick is in proper handwashing technique. Rub, rub, rub those dirty paws thoroughly. Get to all surfaces of the hands, between fingers, and scrape your nails along the palm of the opposite hand to drive the soap bubbles underneath them. The rubbing process with soapy hands should last for 15-20 seconds or two hums of the Happy Birthday song.
truly proper handwashing, coupled with not touching your face, will break that hand-to-mouth/eye/nose circle of germ circulation.
Today’s next tidbit is something I’ve successfully employed in my recovery from being in a hypervigilant state for the past two years – even longer, as I endeavored to be “on-the-ready” for my husband’s changing needs.
mean our nervous systems magically switch to a normal maintenance mode. Some of my symptoms were manifesting as an irregular heartbeat at bedtime.
Maybe you, too, are trying to come off of a hypervigilant state. Whether it’s a different living circumstance, a change in jobs, or a change in relationships, converting to a calmer state of mind is not easy. Others may wonder why you may be having a rough time since the “problem” has been eliminated.
While I am still very much a work in progress, I would like to share a bit of success that may help you, too. Curing hypervigilance and anxiety requires a multi-faceted approach, often with professional counselors, but this may be a starting point for you.
This is how that went for me – here comes that nightly tension; I’m feeling those strong erratic beats of my heart which causes more anxiety – and instead of the usual tailspin, I applied alternate thinking.
quiet breathing.
Remember to be “off screen” before bed each night; the blue light of electronic screens is detrimental to the production of sleep-inducing hormones. Read something relaxing and helpful from a good old-fashioned printed book. It can be part of your winding-down routine for a good night’s sleep.
working is a big job. While post-hurricane mold spores swirl in the air along with the usual mix of wintertime viruses, many of us are walking a thin line between health and vocal collapse.
I’ve cheated the all-night simmering of chicken bones with large boxes of organic, free range, chicken bone broth.
2 chicken thighs
