Category Archives: Habit Building

Sometimes You Feel Like A Nut … And That’s Okay

If you are blessed to be in the 98%+ of people who can safely eat tree nuts, we have some good news for you.  

Not only are nuts satisfying to consume, but they can be impressive sources of good fats, protein, and fiber. When eaten slowly and deliberately – read “mindfully” – regular, modest nut consumption can contribute to good health.

Let’s dive into a bowl of cashews:

Raw – I prefer to buy my cashews in-the-raw, so I’ll know for sure how they are handled. Raw cashews lack that satisfying crunch we associate with nuts but can easily be added to blended sauces or beverage blends often crafted with almond milk.

Activated – Whenever possible, soaking and dehydrating all nuts is a plus to make them more digestible. See my book, Toolkit for Wellness, for background information and a method that preserves a live state. When activated, nuts will have crunch without high heat, oil, or salt. 

Dry-roasted – The method we often choose because it seems healthier, but manufacturers of dry-roasted nuts often add extra salt to boost the flavor factors lost with the elimination of oil. Sodium contributes to higher blood pressure and a host of other health issues. Go for the lower-salt versions.

Oil-roasted – This is the method we were probably introduced to in our youth. I remember happily nibbling on oil-roasted nuts at holiday parties as a kid, only to dread dropping one on my clothes because of the oil stains they left. The very thought of highly refined, processed oils used in manufacturing this type of nuts makes me shudder today.

Even without a dehydrator, raw cashews can be dry roasted in the home oven – ideally after soaking. Check THIS out for a good method.

I have even roasted nuts in a sauté pan over medium low heat – just keep the nuts stirred as they warm in the pan; constant vigilance is mandatory to prevent burning.

Okay- How can cashews help us? Here’s a summary of what I have learned:

Heart health – Cashews are linked to a lowering of bad cholesterol and an increase in good cholesterol. This translates to lower blood pressure and lower LDL cholesterol. The monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fatty acids found in cashews helps improve overall heart health.

Blood sugar stability – The high fiber content of cashews is the probable link in a 2019 study showing Type 2 diabetics achieving better control of blood sugar when eating cashews daily. Fiber directly contributes to a slower release of glucose into the blood.

Weight control – High fiber foods are very satiating – especially coupled with the healthy fats contained in cashews. A one ounce serving makes a great snack.

Copper – As a trace mineral, copper packs a powerhouse of benefits for heart, vascular, and blood health, as well as assisting the proper functioning of the immune system. That one-ounce snack of cashews delivers 70% of our copper needs.

Antioxidants – Long recognized as being the supermen of fighting off the bad guys – free radicals – the antioxidants found in roasted cashews are particularly high in two types of antioxidants critical to living the inflammation-free life we need.

“What does one ounce of cashews look like?” Good question, because going overboard – even with a healthy food – could result in consuming too many calories.

An ounce would consist of 16-18 cashews of medium size. It would take fewer of those giant ones that are often sold. Gee, do we have to biggie-size everything?

I often use a little dish to portion out a snack of cashews. Mindfully munching one cashew at a time really ramps up the enjoyment of a controlled-size portion.

Cashews are also versatile ingredients that can add smoothness, flavor, and all the nutrition mentioned above. Check out this article for a variety of cashew recipes that could inspire your menu tonight, or for your New Year’s celebrations.

Sheree and I both wish you a happy, safe, and healthy New Year. We look forward to sharing more mind-body-spirit health ideas next year, along with some big news about a new release in books.

Crunching on cashews in health-

Deidre

If this post was helpful, please share with family and friends using the MORE options below.

Echinacea is The Powerhouse!

Is your body feeling challenged?

Have you ever crumpled on the couch after a day that has taken a toll on your limited energies only to feel – how shall I describe this – a bit challenged? Maybe there’s a feeling niggling inside that says, “Whoa! I might be sensing something not good starting to happen”?

Whether we are experiencing good stress – called eustress – or bad stress, the toll on the body is often the same.

Factor in our increased holiday activities, and there’s a recipe for being more susceptible to colds, flu, and the like – not to mention COVID.

Elderberry

Whenever I am feeling overly tired, challenged, or have that niggling feeling, my go-to is echinacea or elderberry.

The coneflowers of the echinacea plant may grace your garden with their stunning beauty and variety of color options. It’s long been used by Native Americans for its medicinal properties when taken internally or used on the skin to treat wounds.

Before you dive into using any form of echinacea, please check out THIS POST for vital information about precautions, interactions, and dosing. All medicines started out in nature – just because we can get them over the counter does not mean we should casually use them on our own.

Echinacea

Echinacea as an anti-inflammatory agent helps to support proper immune function. Its antioxidants bolster our immune response. It is not a treatment for COVID.

The National Institutes of Health (NIH) indicates that many studies have been done on echinacea’s use with the common cold and other respiratory tract infections. This is what I am trying to ward off or lessen when I turn to echinacea.

I have also discovered elderberry syrup can be helpful in boosting my immune response, so I have added it to my ward-off-getting-sick arsenal by either preparing a cup of tea with one dropperful of an echinacea or elderberry containing extract OR by chewing up five Nature’s Way Esberitox Chewable Tabs.

This is anecdotal evidence, but when coupled with a smart approach that includes –

Respecting my body’s messages to slow down

Getting adequate sleep

Eating real food with no additives

Maintaining modest exercise

Then I can successfully keep the wolf on the other side of the door, and can wake up with stable energies and no more niggling feelings of impending badness.

Taking a couple days of down time to catch up and recharge before continuing our vacation explorations – this time in the mountains –

In health –

Deidre

If you found this information helpful, click on the MORE button below to share with others.

A Holiday Challenge

We are all familiar with the dietary temptations of this holiday season – starting with Halloween and culminating with New Year’s … or the Super Bowl … or maybe Valentine’s Day.

That’s at least four months of over-the-top sweets, fat, and decadent beverages. I’m letting St. Patrick’s Day slide because it features corned beef, cabbage, and potatoes – well, there is the beer.

I have compounded my personal challenge of not going crazy with holiday food by also being on the road visiting family for Thanksgiving and then vacationing for over two weeks. Yikes!

There is no way I want to re-lose those 25 pounds I lost over 6 months on Noom. No, siree!

My companion and I have met the challenge, not through denial and lack of participation in the local culinary and beverage scene, but by sharing a generous app or meal, doing lots of tourist-y walking to take in the magnificent views, and in eating at least one meal prepared in our micro kitchen each day.

A few bananas, apples, and a jar of peanut butter go a long way to save money and calories on breakfast. Using the microwave in our lodgings, I’ve added bowls of steel cut oats to the morning menu.

The one day, so far, which we each had our own meal, leftovers were kept and enjoyed the next night.

This approach to holiday/vacation eating seems to be working. My slacks are still quite comfortable to wear and there are no bulges.

Yet, we have marveled at the divine wonderfulness of our shared bowl of oyster “stew” – which looked like an oyster version of she-crab soup – as we tried not to audibly sigh with too much delight.

How are you managing your holiday eating? It does take some pre-planning and commitment, for sure, but blood sugars and waist sizes can be maintained.

Enjoy the holiday decorations

In health-

Deidre

If you have found this post helpful, please share using the options below.

Great Expectations Ahead

Can you feel the rise of expectations during the holidays – especially since it’s our first fully-vaccinated and “boosted” holiday season since 2019?

We have GREAT EXPECTATIONS!

It’s a hallmark version of life we may long for, but the reality of changing circumstances may give us something less than what we had envisioned.

Should we feel like failures? Maybe we’ll just let the holiday season slip right on past and pretend it never happened.

Every religious holiday I can think of is centered around the theme of love – giving it, receiving it, revering the gift of love, and being inspired by it. Most secular and national holidays recognize love and gratitude in some way.

Halloween may be the exception, however; but it does highlight a love of candy, having fun, and all things pumpkin.

So, are all the Hallmark accoutrements of over-the-top decorations, festivals, and parades just so much window dressing?

Like the famous Wendy’s commercial of old which asked, “Where’s the beef,” we might be asking, where’s the love?

Our social calendar may look a little empty due to infirmity, circumstances, moving, or a host of other reasons. There may be a little less to work with this year.

But it’s not the window dressings  we remember or hold in our hearts – it’s the love and how we felt.

The memories that last are the songs our hearts were singing at the time – love songs of joy, warmth, and care.

The theme of changing expectations to focus on the love – instead of the window dressings – is reverberating more and more with many of us.

Gathering a few of the many decorations from my home of over 40 years to my nascent home in another town, I kept repeating my new mantra of “expectations” to adjust what environment I wanted to create and WHY I felt it was important.

I did not need the full Hallmark effect. What I needed was the LOVE.

May we not lament the things and experiences we do not have.

More than ever, we need to rejoice in the loving relationships we are nurturing. Strengthening the loving bonds may look a bit different again this year, but the resulting full hearts will forever be warmed by something that endures, crossing distance, time, and space.

With love and appreciation for each foodtalk4you subscriber –

Deidre

#RAISEcaregiving (ACL’s official tag for RAISE activities)
#CaregivingInCrisis (CAN’s 2020 observance)
#NFCMonth (Annual observance hashtag)
#FamilyCaregiver (A larger conversation on family caregiving) 
#Caregivers (Broadest conversation around caregiving)

Follow-Up to Caregiver Conference – Free Gifts!

Summary of Online Events of November 16, 2021

ALEXANDRA ALLRED

Website: https://www.alexandraallred.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.allred.3

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandra-allred-56985937/​

Twitter: @Alexandraallred

As Alex is fond of saying, it doesn’t matter how big or small you are, you have a voice! As she fights for her parents against Alzheimer’s and dementia, Alex’s “Operation Caregivers,” is yet another battle to restore dignity for those who suffer from the disease and empowerment for their https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.allred.3-569859

FREEBIE1: Here is a link for the book, “Alzheimer’s and Dementia 101,” and I will be giving away 10 copies of this book: https://www.amazon.com/Alzheimers-Dementia-101-Pro…

FREEBIE2: For those looking for some serious Girl Power, I will also be giving away free copies of “Awareness is Armor”:https://www.amazon.com/Awareness-ArmorOnline/dp/17…

 Email Alex at: redburn4@gmail.com. (Reference that you saw her on The Complete Caregiver Guide event) and request a copy of either “Alzheimer’s and Dementia 101” OR “Awareness is Armor.”

First come, first serve!

DEIDRE EDWARDS

If you are one of the millions of people who has become a caregiver to a loved one, Deidre’s Toolkit for Caregivers will guide you through that maze of caregiving concerns that threaten to overwhelm and consume you.

Website: https://www.deidreedwards.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deidre.edwards.96

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deidre-edwards-078825a…

Twitter: https://twitter.com/FoodTalk4You

FREEBIE: We are giving three lucky people our most popular publication, Toolkit for Caregivers. Toolkit for Caregivers blends the demands associated with caring for another with a calmer atmosphere and self-assured peacefulness – creating a remedy for a more purposeful, soothing atmosphere, beneficial to both you and your patient. Please take the time to sign up for our drawing. We would love for the winner to be you!

Click here to enter: https://toolkits-for-health.ck.page/dc4f3ce72d

I would also like to share the link to my free online course,

​Family Caregiver Emotions | Toolkits for Health (teachable.com)

LORI LA BEY

Lori is a passionate advocate who searches for ways to shift our dementia care culture from crisis to comfort. She was recognized as the #1 Influencer Online for Alzheimer’s. As a professional speaker and daughter of a mother with dementia for over 30 years, Lori gets it! Change is needed on multiple levels.

Website: https://www.alzheimersspeaks.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AlzheimersSpeaks/

Instagram: @AlzheimersSpeaks

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/alzheimer-s-speak…

Twitter: https://twitter.com/alzspks      @AlzSpks

YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/user/AlzheimersSpeaks

Alzheimer’s Speaks Radio: https://www.blogtalkradio.com/alzheimersspeaks

Alzheimer’s Speaks Blog: https://alzheimersspeaks.wordpress.com/

Dementia Map Global Resource Directory: https://www.dementiamap.com/

FREEBIE: A downloadable brochure giving tips to communicate

https://www.alzheimersspeaks.com/images/Home_Page/…

LUCIA MCBEE

Lucia has worked for over 25 years with elders, high-risk population and persons with chronic conditions, as well as their caregivers, in a wide range of community, research, and institutional settings. She developed a pioneering practice using mindfulness to improve the quality of life in community, hospital, clinic and nursing home settings.

Website: http://luciamcbee.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucia-mcbee-27988717/

FREEBIE: A 3-minute audio file, “Breathing Space”:

https://onedrive.live.com/?authkey=%21ALOZFO0DMzee…

KATE MCKAY

Kate is a speaker, coach, media expert, fitness and wellness buff, and mom. Kate is committed to inspiring others to live a breakthrough life.

Website: https://www.kate-mckay.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheBreakthroughCatalyst/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katemckaycoach/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katemckaybreakthroughc…

FREEBIE: Download “Learn How to Handle Tolerations” worksheet: bit.ly/KMFreeWorksheet

DIVYA PAREKH

Divya’s strategies motivate leaders, cross-functional groups, and teams to cultivate independent leadership, the interdependence between themselves and their internal and external customers to achieve a combined mastery of connectivity and alignment. Her experience allows her to guide leaders, teams, and professionals through complicated business and personal challenges.

Website: http://divyaparekh.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beyondconfidenceforsucces…

Podcast: https://www.podcasts.com/beyond-confidence-59

Blog: https://www.divyaparekh.com/blog/

Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/divyaparekh/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/divyaparekh/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/coachdivya

FREEBIE: Free audio program:

https://success.divyaparekh.com/leadershipandinfluence/

DR. MARION SOMERS

During the past four decades, Dr. Marion has provided care for more than 2,000 elderly clients while she owned and operated a thriving Geriatric Care Management practice. It is now Dr. Marion’s goal to help caregivers everywhere by providing valuable insights and information.

Website: http://drmarion.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMarionSomers/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_marionsomers/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmarionsomers/

FREEBIE: A one-page A to Z caregiving guide for the caregivers who are often overworked and underappreciated – 

http://drmarion.com/dr-marion-somers-eldercare-a-z/

CLAUDIA TABOADA

Claudia is a burnout prevention and stress resilience coach and mentor, a self-care advocate, and a motivational speaker. She is also an entrepreneur, a digital course creator and founder of the ”Unstoppable You Wellness Academy,” an online platform offering digital courses, digital products and online trainings, with the mission to empower those who are burned out.

Website: https://claudiataboada.com/

Private FB Group for moms and caregivers The Unstoppable Mom

Project: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theunstoppablemomp…

FB Business Page Claudia Taboada — The Unstoppable Mom: https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaTaboadaTheUnstoppa…

Linkedin: linkedin.com/in/claudia-taboada-216a901bb

FREEBIE: The Unstoppable You Self-Care and Total Wellness Assessment. Here is the link to subscribe: https://crafty-thinker-6396.ck.page/6a55a65df1

PETRA WEGGEL

Petra is an author and entrepreneur who turned her attention to finding real-world elder care solutions after a series of unexpected events left her scrambling to help her parents manage their affairs. Her desire was to offer other adult children of seniors practical advice they could use in their own lives.

Website: https://theeldercareplaybook.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/petra.weggel

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/petraweggel/

FREEBIE: The Elder Care Playbookhttps://theeldercareplaybook.com/get-freebie/

NOTE: If you wish to save a copy of this on your computer or want to print it out, click our PRINT button below – under DESTINATION, scroll down to PDF and click SAVE.

The Power Of A Word

Harnessing Power

We talk a lot about nurturing others: Encouraging our children and grandchildren saying, “You can do this,” “I believe in you,” “You have all the skills for success,” and the like.

Are we doing this for ourselves?

Or is our inner conversation more like, “Well, that was dumb,” “I knew you’d fail trying that,” or, “You’re not smart enough/thin enough/fast enough/rich enough/young enough/old enough to succeed”?

We’ve explored self-talk before on foodtalk4you, and readers continue to print out their copies of affirmations offered on our home page. Those affirmations, which have helped me in the past, are more faith-based and perhaps – more generalized.

As I study the writings of Louise Hay and Jennifer Teske, I have come to appreciate a different sort of affirmation that speaks to my inner self – the very core of my self-worth and abilities.

Letting the words of these affirmations by Hay wash over and filter through me, I am being transformed and empowered from the inside out.

I’ve come to learn, the subconscious mind accepts things at face value – much like we did when as babies and children. We accepted the things we experienced and were told were true. Those early messages of love and acceptance – or mistrust, lack of love, and self-doubt – became our view of the world and the blueprint for self-talk throughout life.

Louise Hay takes the listener through paired statements aimed at addressing the way the subconscious mind thinks. More than, “I am good enough, just as I am,” which the subconscious may reject as a false belief from early experiences. Her tandem affirmations also include, “You are good enough just as you are,” which is aimed at leaving an acceptable truth in the subconscious.

Listening to such affirmations feeds the non-judgmental and accepting subconscious mind. There are times when the inner self needs a boost of self-worth messages.

When was the last time you believed that you are worthwhile and deserved to be happy? Or that you were loveable because you exist?

Even if we have been behaving in ways that are unlovable, reminding ourselves that deep inside we are loveable, can inspire a change in attitude and action.

What if you were to internalize the message: I experience love wherever I go/ You experience love wherever you go? Perhaps you would come to greet each day in expectancy of positive experiences and love. With such an outlook, you would find love wherever you go.

I am at peace within/ You are at peace within. Enjoy a non-puffed-up boost in self-worth and being grounded by listening to such inspired affirmations.

Leave your thoughts and comments with me by clicking on the comments link at the top. If you found this post helpful, please use the MORE button below for sharing options.

  • #RAISEcaregiving (ACL’s official tag for RAISE activities)
  • #CaregivingInCrisis (CAN’s 2020 observance)
  • #NFCMonth (Annual observance hashtag)
  • #FamilyCaregiver (A larger conversation on family caregiving) 
  • #Caregivers (Broadest conversation around caregiving)

In health-

Deidre

Mindful Eating

Yeah, yeah, yeah – mindful this and mindful that … give me a “mindful” break.

Ever thought that?

With visions of people in a lotus position – “ohhhming” – all day, I frankly didn’t used to understand what mindful really was.

A little enlightenment – pun intended – helped me appreciate how “mindful” has supplanted so many other words:

My Noom experience since February of this year has lead me to more than just a 20 pound loss in weight; it has opened up a world of understanding and mindfulness in countless aspects of my life.

With holiday and special event eating temptations already calling to us like sirens from the deep, a reminder about the whys and wherefores of eating could do us all some good.

Fuel Eating

According to Noom, there are four kinds of eating:

Fuel Eating – When we are seeking food that will “do my body good.” Think clean protein, veggies, fruit, high fiber starch – without added fats and sugars.

Joy Eating – When foods delight our palate and soul. For many of us, this kind of food has become very different from foods that will, “do our body good.”  Sure, it might be great to eliminate such eating, but realistically, it’s going to happen. Just make sure it’s not more than 10% of our consumption.

Fog Eating

Fog Eating – This is mindless grazing and munching on whatever is around. This can be easily controlled and modified by eliminating candy dishes, junk food cupboards, and replacing what is available with healthier alternatives. Asking ourselves why we are eating – being mindful – may reveal a lack of hunger (fuel needs) so we can remove ourselves to do another activity while we’re fogging-out. Think a walk to the mailbox, playing with the dog, or taking a few minutes to move and stretch.

Storm Eating

Storm Eating – Results from a psychological response to a situation, or from food denial. Think eating to excess, knowing you are doing it, and then beating yourself up about it later. I have found that eating a consistent diet of fuel foods, coupled with mindful and measured joy foods on occasion, help lower any desire to this, “I don’t care, I’ve been good too long and I deserve to go off the deep end,” kind of eating altogether.

So, WHY are you eating and what can you DO about it?

Being mindful-

Deidre

Plan Ahead …

If you’ve ever done lettering, created a greeting card, made a poster, or anything that requires planning prior to execution, then you’ll appreciate the this well-known poster.

That’s what I’m doing right now. Planning ahead. Writing posts for Foodtalk4you several weeks in advance. Why? Because of superb efficiency? I wish.

I am struggling, even now, with a limited bandwidth. Each of us has a finite amount of energy… bandwidth … focus. Yes, there is a limit as to how many plates we can keep spinning up in the air at one time.

First, I am in Grandma heaven! Even before I get to hold my new granddaughter and marvel at her every breath, movement, and glance. I am floating on cloud nine! As I write this, it’s hard to focus, and it’s been less than a day since her birth. Of course, that was a few days ago now.

Second, I must stay in one piece as I drive to see her and return home. My cloud nine brain needs to concentrate on the Interstate.

Third, relationships need time and attention.

Fourth and fifth, I want to focus on revisions and additions to both Toolkit for Wellness and Toolkit for Caregivers – which is going to require massive concentration and commitment.  

That leaves the sixth, learning the ins and out of putting both books in an audio format.

So, dear readers, let me ask you a few questions as I ‘plan ahead’: What wellness issues would you like to see amplified, changed, or addressed in a future version of Toolkit for Wellness?

If you have experienced an improvement in your health/wellness status from ideas you have implemented after reading Toolkit for Wellness, would you be willing to share?

The revised Toolkit for Caregivers will have expanded discussions about caregiver emotions, keys for resilience, how to transition away from caregiving when your loved one improves, and grief after caregiving. What other topics about general caregiver issues, (not specific to a particular disease), would you like to see?

Would you be willing to share any helpfulness that Toolkit for Caregivers has given you or to someone you have given the book to?

Please leave your thoughts, comments, and suggestions with me at deidre@toolkitsforhealth.com. Thank you so much!

In health-

Deidre

Shhhhhh! Baby’s sleeping ….

As always, please click on the MORE button below to discover all the options to share this helpful article. And to my dear readers in Poland, feel free to translate and share with your friends!

Synchronicity – or Lucky Star?

Happenstance? Chance encounters? God wink? Coincidence? Or just dumb luck?

You pick.

As we slosh around on the ground in the day-to-day, our thoughts may stray to dumb luck.

It seems, though, when we take the proverbial bird’s eye view, or a higher suborbital view, we can often connect the dots of life happenings. Kind of like trying to help a 5-year-old understand that life is bigger than the little red-haired girl not wanting to sit next to them in lunch. It’s a matter of perspective.

Currently, I am surrounded by messages in books, articles, posts, texts, and conversations dealing with:

– Breaking down thought distortions

         –  Identifying limiting beliefs  

-Exploring the childhood emotional experiences that taught us limiting beliefs

       –  Embracing and then releasing those limiting beliefs

Discovering the liberation created in not requesting band aids for our broken life, but rather taking a hold of the change and growth that is happening so we can become our best selves

Writing down our desires, not as, “I want,” statements, but as, “I see a future vision of myself,” statements. “I want,” emphasizes our lack. The, “I see a future vision of myself,” is full of hope, possibilities, and an implied plan of action.

Things around me are building into something more beautiful, powerful, and meaningful with every passing day. There is evidence, for me, of a great universal synchronicity – that is working for good.

Take the high-up view of your life. Are you seeing patterns of meaningful growth? How can you embrace that for the good?

Please share this article with others by clicking on the MORE button below for sharing options.

The phone is by my side as I await to hear of the birth of another granddaughter! Now, that’s something to celebrate!

In health-

Deidre

Change

Book Report – Part 1

Change proves there has been learning. Have you ever thought about it? If we learn a better way of doing something, our actions should follow the new way.

No change; no learning.

Are you learning about healthier eating? Did your last meal reflect that? Is there still junk food in your cupboards?

Being exposed to something does not mean we are learning – until we apply the new information. Then there is evidence of learning. It’s the process of internalizing new information to create a different behavior on our part.

So, what am I studying?

As a student of self-improvement and habit formation, I am discovering how to take steps beyond affirmations. Affirmations have their place, and I even offer a free, handy set of them on foodtalk4you. (See the Affirmations button towards the top of the home page).

What I am just beginning to learn is, roadblocks to our advancement in any area of life are rooted in emotional responses we developed when, as children, we created our natural response to life experiences. Think: Being loved and supported – or not – and every variation of that.

The guiding light to my exploration of creating and attracting positive outcomes in my life is THIS:

Now, Become a Manifesting Machine: Learn to Use The Law of Attraction to Embrace your Goals, Create Success, and Live the Life of your Dreams, may sound more than a little too, “out there” for you, but hold on.

Perhaps you have heard the term “law of attraction” before. No, it’s not a technique for using a dating app. If you are involved with sales of any kind, you have probably read books and have attended seminars about the law of attraction.

It’s tied to the power of positive thinking. Sort of akin to, “if you think you can – you can. If you think you can’t – you can’t.” Along with visualizations of success – think the Olympic athlete holding the image of perfect execution of their skill and racing across the finish line – there are also the mantras of, “I can do this!”

But wait! There’s more!

Are there roadblocks? Voices in the deep subconscious saying, “you don’t deserve this,” or “you are not good enough”?

The author of this book, Jennifer Teske, takes the reader through her experiences in conquering her personal roadblocks to success in various life goals – including the publishing of this very book and, recovering from the PTSD associated with the seeming death of her husband – by a deeper understanding of the source of her negative emotions … rooted in her childhood.

To summarize some key thoughts I am acquiring:

  • Beliefs are thoughts we keep thinking.
  • Each thought is tied to an emotion.
  • Any limiting beliefs we have, are tied to an uncomfortable emotion from childhood that we continue to feel as an adult.
  • Taming those limiting beliefs and behaviors that demonstrate a lack of advancement, will require reliving that pain from your youth.
  • To release a negative emotion/experience, we must allow it to fully exist and to feel that pain again.
  • Let that feeling wash over us; experience it fully, and do not push it away.
  • Then, it can naturally fade into the past, as we release it.
  • The only way out of negativity is through it.

I first spoke of my word of the year, “Embrace,” several years ago. It referenced my role as a 24/7 caregiver. As much as I wanted that role to vanish, I knew it was there to stay until my husband passed. I needed to embrace my role to get through it. I had to lean in.

The visceral response is, “No!” – but embrace, we must. Denial is not the answer; nor is it the answer in recovery from an event. I even shared a releasing technique in, Toolkit for Caregivers, that first acknowledges the emotion before it can be released.

If you are interested in learning from this excellent book, I highly recommend getting the paperback. Currently, I am reading the Kindle version and am trying to decipher my scribbled notes. The paper version was ordered today, and I can’t wait to start using a highlighter and writing in the margins!

Here’s to learning ways to get rid of limiting beliefs.

In health –

Deidre

Please share this article with others by clicking on the MORE button below for sharing options.